Would you allow me to share some "black pill" nuke about dating above 30?

[DreamAgain]

I made a post about this topic earlier essentially saying the runway for men to pick a good candidate is shorter than we think.

Yes, we can still accumulate resources as we age, that gets easier in theory, but our own looks deteriorate as well, and it becomes harder to find any woman not psychologically damaged by being a hoe and becoming an overt gold digger.

Long story short, do not squander your youth to find a good one and certainly be fortright with your intentions to lock down one that meets as much of your criteria for the long haul as possible.

It's not fun being alone as you age, with less and less options out there to choose from.

 

[BaronOfHair]

It's not fun being alone as you age, with less and less options out there to choose from.

Anyone who's idea of "not being alone" doesn't extend far beyond locking down an SO is in for a lifetime of agony

 

[DreamAgain]

Anyone who's idea of "not being alone" doesn't extend far beyond locking down an SO is in for a lifetime of agony

Why are you intentionally being a contrarian? There is a middle ground compromise between meeting someone who checks all your boxes, and being content being a loner.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Why are you intentionally being a contrarian? There is a middle ground compromise between meeting someone who checks all your boxes, and being content being a loner.

Your SO can vanish at anytime, for a wide array of reasons, and we all know lots of men who were irreparably shattered, when they made their wives their whole world and she ceased being in the picture

All I'm saying is, try really hard to not define "being alone" so narrowly

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

I disagree. Younger women still require the same foundational traits in a man as older women do, albeit on a smaller scale, because the same parameters are needed to inspire desire.

For a younger woman, a man still needs to have resources (e.g., a car in high school, his own room in university), still needs to be part of and respected within a social group (e.g., admired by peers, invited to parties, seen as a leader or someone others look up to), still needs to represent something fantastical or aspirational (like being a gangbanger, a jock, or the popular guy), and there needs to be anxiety and a touch of fear that the man may be gone at any second.

The attraction may appear more impulsive or emotional at that age but it’s not raw instinct alone.

So much this. Not sure where OP grew up but the Game really is the same based on age. For example, when I was in high school as well as in college, broke guys were not getting hot girls. This is a lie that media spreads to make bums feel good about themselves.

Like look at the "Chad". He is not some broke guy from a trailer park. Usually he is some handsome guy from a wealthy family that is at least upper middle class in stature. Grows up in the suburbs and has parents who can afford to send him to college to major in Communications so he can party his life away.

Hooking up in youth is a rich person's sport, at least if you want quality.

Think the sorority girls are going for some brokie in college? Even @CornbreadFed will disagree with you there.

Life is pretty simple.

Look good, make money, and have confidence. The rest is just filler. OP is way overthinking this because his luck is down.

 

[tksniper]

The consensus is that women age like milk while men age like fine wine..most guys believe that men peak in their mid 30s or even later.

I personally agree that men peak way later than women wheter it comes of looks, strenght, social status and overall however I would like to point a clear fact when it comes of establishing a decent worthy relationship with a woman wheter you reached your peak or you're on your way.

The most instinctual e authentic kind of attraction that a female can experience happens between her late teens and early 20s.
No reasoning, no planning, no calculations..just pure raw genuine desire.

There is no logic there, no maths, no evaluations regarding the future life style, trips or places available to attend.

If she wants you, she wants you right there and you know...her eyes tell you not her words.

You wont be asked about your job, no evaluation about your stability or revenues and it's her emotions to lead not her cold brain.
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Then it comes the mid to late 20s and something chances.

Experience takes over desire, emotions become calculations and raw desire leaves the way to "strategy".

Attraction is now conditional to what you can provide in terms of status, stability, effort, life style and even bags and gadgets...which neighbourhood will be available to her? what social class the people you attend belong to? what parties can you join?

It's no longer love or attraction, it's a investment not any different from your stock purchase or better yet fixed revenue bonds.
It's the same difference between an uncontrollable wild fire and a well planned saturday night barbecue coal fire.

This is why men chase young girls, it's not cause they are easier to manipulate or because they are insecure about their sexual skills...even the body tone is secondary.

Young girls love with their heart, older ones love with their balance sheet where the first one is genuine and the second one is calculated.

Every man wants to feel loved and desired for who he is, not for the items available in his inventory.
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So to conclude, you may be the highest value 35 yrs old guy in town...the harvey specter of this reality yet no matter how higher you score in terms of LMS value you cant have what that 21 years old pool boy that gets kelly in the rich guy garden while they are on vacation, has available to him after she jumps the fence and gets naked with him while the lights are off.

I believe more and more men are understanding this and it explains while the desire to even date (let alone get married) is disappearing in most men even before economical issues after a certain age.

There is a saying that romance is for the young, and relationships are for the older and wise.

When we’re young there are hormones and forces that are beyond our control that dictates our choices. It’s almost neurotic because it feels like we are in some sort of trance like state.

But then when we get older and wiser, we start to make decisions based on our wisdom and not strictly our hormones (at least the smart ones).

I think there needs to be a balance. Yes, allow yourself to get lost in the moment of sexual and romantic tension and insatiable desire (You’d be robbing yourself from the experience if you didn’t). But at the same time use your experience to know what’s to come of it.

I think both the young and old are flawed. The young throw themselves into the body of water without realizing there might be a current underneath that will sweep them adrift.

And the old are afraid of all bodies of water, thinking there might be a gator underneath.

Being older should be an advantage. You know all the mistakes you made jumping in with zero precautions, but at the same time you know when it’s time to LET GO and enjoy the moment.

Don’t try to intellectualize romance. This is what young people do not do (hence why they seem to enjoy it more). But at the same time, don’t throw away all common sense and delve into total delusion - and this is what young people often do.

Use all of your experience - and create the best possible romance in your own vision based on all of your experiences. This is what the wise (and non jaded) do.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Anyone who's idea of "not being alone" doesn't extend far beyond locking down an SO is in for a lifetime of agony

Being a womanless man is agony to most men, whether they admit it or not.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Being a womanless man is agony to most men, whether they admit it or not.

I've never denied that this CAN be unpleasant, ESPECIALLY if you're reliant on an SO to fulfill your social needs and desires. That's resolved by building a vibrant social life in general