"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Would U B concerned about your wife divorcing U after going thru professional school?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Scaramouche

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Dear MDJ,
What an amazing Yarn,Thanks for posting that!
 

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If it's the one I'm thinking about, he's killed 3 people, not betting he's normal
What I WOULD be worried about is her going to school.... THEN divorcing me while she had NO income.... Alimony would be higher.
 

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sodbuster said:
If it's the one I'm thinking about, he's killed 3 people, not betting he's normal
What I WOULD be worried about is her going to school.... THEN divorcing me while she had NO income.... Alimony would be higher.

This is something that women do all the time, they also will marry a guy just to get him to "be a real man" and work to pay off her student loans.
 

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Guy was certainly off his meds. I do recall that when my ex and I split she tried sticking me with half her college loans. A good attorney saved my bacon. The argument is that I was not entitled to any of the benefit of said education in the future, therefore I wasn't due to pay any % thereof.
I certainly understand the rage of a guy that felt duped but that's where having a good network guy friends makes the difference. Losing your $hit won't help anything.

KC
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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