"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My friend seems to be copying me, my clothes, my humor, my dreams.

When he's over my house, he plugs a usb plug into my pc and rips everything off my pc, seasons of shows I watch, stand up comedy gigs, books, everything? And gives next to nothing back, he just seems to take. I'm starting to feel like I want to distance myself from him.

Am I wrong to be Annoyed with this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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S0LID

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lol.... the quality of this forum ain wha it used to be :)
 

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You let people touch your computer? Maybe it's because I'm a Software Engineer and extremely paranoid of who touches my computer, but I would never let any of my friends use my laptop logged in under my own user account. It's password protected, and any other partitions on it that are not needed for the guest account to work are sealed off as well. If anyone wants to touch it, the only reason is to browse the internet, the rest is off limits.

As for him copying your style: See it as a compliment. There is no bigger compliment than being replicated.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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moneyisking

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S0LID said:
lol.... the quality of this forum ain wha it used to be :)
how was it like? would reading old threads help me improve my life and game? if it does, i must execute.
 

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he obviously looks up to you take it as a compliment. My friends use all my jokes and stuff and i dont really mind, but i think i would get a bit annoyed if they all started dressing like me.

Just try to take it as a compliment.
 

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S0LID said:
My friend seems to be copying me, my clothes, my humor, my dreams.

When he's over my house, I LET HIM plug in a usb plug into my pc and I LET HIM rip everything off my pc, seasons of shows I watch, stand up comedy gigs, books, everything? And gives next to nothing back, he just seems to take BECAUSE I LET HIM. I'm starting to feel like I want to distance myself from him.

Am I wrong to be Annoyed with this?
I edited your OP to make it more accurate.

Now you see the problem, go fix it.

People are like parasites. They will take take take and try to make the relationship as parasitic as possible where they only take and give nothing. In fact, just like parasites their taking may hurt the host aka YOU but they don't give a sh1t.

You need to live life COMFORTABLY. NOT FEELING GOOD ABOUT SOMETHING? CHANGE IT. THINK A GIRL IN BORING? EXCUSE YOURSELF AND STOP TALKING TO HER. THINK YOUR BUDDY IS ANNOYING? LET HIM KNOW TO STOP HIS BULLSH1T OR HE'S GONE. THINK YOU DESERVE A PROMOTION? ASK FOR IT AND SHOW WHY YOU DESERVE IT.

Do whatever you have to do make your life comfortable. I have little stress in my life now simply because I have a zero tolerance no bullsh1t policy. If I feel like something is giving me unnecessary stress, I cut it out of my life. I cut these people out like surgeons cut tumors out. They are tumors on your life. Extra weights in your backpack, holding you down and dragging you into their pitiful lives.
 

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Ha, your situation reminds me exactly of my friend. It gets really really annoying. My friend would steal my jokes allllll the time. that didnt bother me, the part that bothered me is he would use my material on girls at partys or bars before i even had a chance to use them. it pissed me off. its kind of a catch 22 too, because if you call him out on it in front of others you look pathetic but if you dont say anything, he looks like the funny witty guy. I wish i had an answer to your solution but i never figured it out myself. Sucks but i just would never use any of my jokes around him which made me more dull
 

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you need to expand your socail cirle more to "connectors" and people who add value to your life, as it looks like your freinds doesnt add, he only takes... dont need to totally drop him, just expand
ive stopped being freinds with freinds who altho are nice guys, dont add anything and infact bring you down a bit, its a shame...

on the other hand, you may be able to get him interested in PU and if you can get him to have some of this own thoughts/opinions rather than just copying you, you could mold him into a wingman for yourself...!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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