"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Would shaadi.com be good option for South Indian, to find a life partner?

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This matrimonial portals are created for south Indian people and NRI, the biggest advantages they carry are highlighted below...

Advantage

-Search your own partner, with unique preferences, and standards

-You're talking to people who are serious about marriage

- No strings attached, you can walk away if you don't like it

- I am Canadian, so I have distinct advantage over others, especially if I'm open to getting married to someone in India, as they all want to come over here.

- You're talking to new generation, especially when marriages are traditionally arranged by parents in India.


Disadvantage
-You're going by the impression made by someone you can't read body language on.

-Its a serious business

- You have to pay membership fees

- You need to find your A game otherwise, you won't be going anywhere on these portals..

Ok, as it goes I've turned around my lifestyle upside down, since starting the Don Juan path two years ago, still; very few young DJ's are aspiring to find life partners in their quest, and because of my Indian background, I can't make myself get in the circle of short term relationships,

Normally, there are various places one can find a life partner, and here in North American culture people wait t'ill they are in their 30's to settle down, and it just doesn't ring true especially since I just visited India, and saw my cousins at 23 getting married, and perfectly alright with it, somehow looking at my background it just doesn't make sense to keep a wait game.

Right now, I am considered a top prize in India with my Canadian background, I was offered so many marriage proposals , when I was back in India that now I truly understand the power that comes with NRI status, while I saw other cousins from India settling for less, because people were holding out for guys like me, and then it hit me, WOW, I'm the most demanded bachelor in India right now, and with my family connections, this could really get me some major props with social proof..

So should I go that route of looking for someone in my community, and marriage portals where I'm considered top prize, or should I grind it out like any other Canadian looking for that special someone? Its like I'm prince charming at one place, and just another guy at another, what would you choose?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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trv26

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someone marrying you for your economic status/money=someone more likely to cheat on you/ divorce you and run off with you money.

And don't say they have traditional Indian values etc. Indians too are humans like the rest, and get as horny as the rest. Also if you plan to settle in Canada with the person you marry, eventually the Canadian culture will have its effect,

I'm pessimistic by nature. Maybe you'd be more lucky. Or atleast be smart enough to weed out the people who'd marry you just for your money.
 

trv26

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someone marrying you for your economic status/money=someone more likely to cheat on you/ divorce you and run off with you money.

And don't say they have traditional Indian values etc. Indians too are humans like the rest, and get as horny as the rest. Also if you plan to settle in Canada with the person you marry, eventually the Canadian culture will have its effect,

I'm pessimistic by nature. Maybe you'd be more lucky. Or atleast be smart enough to weed out the people who'd marry you just for your money.
 
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