Would like some help with improving cold approaches.

[T-Mack]

I’ve been cold approaching a lot lately and have had mixed results. One example is a girl I was talking with in the library at the computers.

I start talking to her but I have a hard time getting the conversation going constant. Like there will be some long and short pauses in between. Then I ended up asking her if she would mind if I added her to my facebook because we were both on it at the same time and she says you’re a stranger. I come back with we can get to know each other in a friendly tone of voice.

She seemed to like that response and started laughing. I was clueless what to say after that because she didn’t reply with anything else. Then I figured she wasn’t interested and I ended up saying nice meeting you and then got out of there. I was thinking I could have said something like well let’s go get coffee and get to know each other but it didnt come to my head until afterwards.

I’d like to know some conversation topics that you guys use with the ladies when opening them to keep the conversation going smooth and point out what I could have done differently.

 

[Igetit!]

What kind of results have you had in general? Other than the example you just gave,can you say how women seem to react to your approaches overall?
It would be helpful to have a little more info.

 

[619joe]

After that response (after her laugh) you coulda kept it goin saying "Haha yeah we can be bff's over facebook.Im not sure if it will work out if you keep poking me and sending me invites though then I will break up our bff relationship"

^ Ive used the BFF line along those lines and it works wonders.

The thing you have to learn is

LISTEN to what she is saying and bounce off ideas from that.

Connect with the girl and find similarities to see if YOU like HER.If she tells you shes been to mexico,ask her about it!what her fav part was,any interesting funny stories,etc...the it should never be boring because as long as you bounce off what shes saying it should be good.Also learn when to transition

 

[daygameguy]

I’ve been cold approaching a lot lately and have had mixed results. One example is a girl I was talking with in the library at the computers.

I start talking to her but I have a hard time getting the conversation going constant. Like there will be some long and short pauses in between. Then I ended up asking her if she would mind if I added her to my facebook because we were both on it at the same time and she says you’re a stranger. I come back with we can get to know each other in a friendly tone of voice.

She seemed to like that response and started laughing. I was clueless what to say after that because she didn’t reply with anything else. Then I figured she wasn’t interested and I ended up saying nice meeting you and then got out of there. I was thinking I could have said something like well let’s go get coffee and get to know each other but it didnt come to my head until afterwards.

I’d like to know some conversation topics that you guys use with the ladies when opening them to keep the conversation going smooth and point out what I could have done differently.

Before you start listening to her, and connect with her, try to transition into stories or topics where YOU can demonstrate YOUR value and let her look at YOUR world first.

Think of the fun events that took place in your life, and build stories around them, around 1 min long, and make them interesting.

Just start kino on her, bust on her, make her feel relaxed yet stimulated by your presence.

Always use chick crack material for conversation topics (all your conversational threads should be conveying more emotion than facts). For example - Relationships, clothing, future plans, dance classes, social life, and other similar kinds of topics.

 

[rushing dude 123]

"Then I ended up asking her if she would mind if I added her to my facebook because we were both on it at the same time and she says you’re a stranger"

firstly don't ask "hey u seem friendly and i want to talk to u again write ur number down (or u got face book?)" ur a man take control. I had this problem got so many rejections when u ask instead of tell. u will notice the rejections will decrease if u demand her number. This could prob b why she threw that stranger line at u.

Things to talk about after opener:

Hmmm u got a nice accent on u where u from "india" ....o ka sai ho (learn few words in languages trust me it will break the ice)

physical: What shes wearing, holding, hair:
"r u sure u can even see in this dark area whilst wearing those sun glasses"
"hmmm what is that thing in ur hand, is it a kinda whip stick thing, for horses or for ummm well lets not get into that actually...."
"wow ur hair is really awesome u always have it like that?, how often u change it?"

Situational:
"what r u doing on this corner anyway, wait r u going to try and sell me drugs or something....my usual guy has a big huge coat i seriously don't know where ur going to hide them"
"u usually sit watching lakes randomlly, just curious what do u think about when u c the lake....let me guess should of brought bread lol"

Body language:
"wow u got very relaxed vibe about u, u got the whole james dean lean and everything u r either extremly high or extremly kool"
"why r u pacing up and down for anyway, got a test?"

Now this is just a "bit" that will help u, but mostly its going to come down to listening. Its about expanding the subject ur on for a while then if u find a more intersting subject while talking about it transist.

Also something also important u should know, its not the first thing u say that matters its more the second thing. example.

RD: hey how r u
HB: kool

(now this is dead, now u cud do two things a. afc and keep talking try and impress her to get her talking, and then u will lose her or b. call her on her **** if shes not giving u a good vibe, make her look like shes doing something wrong)

AFC: so whats up
RD: wow u have never done this before have u, this is where u say omdz u r such a awesome guy i must know how u r has well

Note: theres thing called ghost, that is when u carry on ignoring iod's, which also apparently works, but trying to keep her talking while she acts like a ***** is just stupid.

Dude this is all the advice ill giv u for now, give it a try see where it gets ya.