"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok guys heres whats up. I met this girl through my army recruiter when he took us to the local univeristy to check out the ROTC program. I act cool, flirt a little bit, a little ****y, we get back in the van to drop me off at my car. I know how women don't like to appear to be sluts, so I am in the very back of the van and she is in the seat in front of me. I put in the text message section, "I want to take you out sometime, Put in your number." She puts her number in there and its all cool:) I feel like a pimp after haha. I call her up a few days later to set up a date. I get an older woman on the phone and I ask for the girl. She says no, nobody here with that name, sorry...So I am like **** it, she put in the wrong number. No big deal...

About a few weeks later after that which was yesterday, I call my recruiter to ask him a few questions, he tells me he is a little tired from the day because he had to take that same girl down to MEPS(Military Enlistment Processing Center) to enlist. I am like ok, so a minute later he tells me, hey XXXXX said she wants you to call her. I told him what happened with the wrong number cuz he's cool like that, and I know he is looking out for me. He said hold, what number did she give you, I told him the number, and one of the digits was a 3 instead of a 4, which one is irrelavant. I am like ok cool I will hit her up. I think to myself, oh maybe she accidentally put in the wrong digit...

Later that night I call her on my house phone, and get no answer. No call back, which is cool, I am like I will call her the next day on my cell, so she won't even know it was me who called yesterday.

Fast forward to today. I text her with saying whats up, word on the street is that you were talking about me the whole way to MEPs. Did you enlist or what? Just trying to be ****y and letting her know it was me cuz she might not answer a number if she doesn't know who it is. She texts me like twenty minutes later asking, Whos this? I ignore the text, call her up half hour later. No answer. So I leave a message on voicemail, saying hey its James, I heard that you cant stop talking about me and want to see me doing push ups and drilling cuz you know I am hot, call me back. I was letting her know it was me, and was adding some ****iness to it.

Ok. I get a text like 4 hours later...Lol really...ya I enlisted...

So my question is should I call her again tonight to set up a date for tomorrow. If she does not answer again, I will take it as low interest, as how I follow the two strikes rule, which works really well to weed out the uninterested ones.

Or should I wait till tomorrow to call and just ignore her text she sent. Or even till next week? seeing how I don't call girls on the weekend.

Did I mess up by leaving a VM/and or texting first.

Some expertise would be great.
 

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well several factors come into play......she may be over her minutes and returning a phone call might be costly......we always jump to the worse case scenario without ever considering the obvious.

POINT 2-women dont answer/return calls they dont recognize. SHe might not be in a situation she can talk right at that moment (in a meeting, at work, cell phone not attached to her leg).

ALWAYS text before calling..........keep it simple.....hey stop screening your calls biatch". Lose the over-confident borderline ****y "hey U want me" stuff this just screams insecurity. Focus on building response potential (make her want to answer, return calls.....something like "you'll never beleive what JOE said about you".

VOICEMAIL.....again build response potential.

FIRST AND FARMOST (for the future) REPEAT HER NUMBER BUT TRANSPOSE A FEW DIGITS......if she corrects you its the right number. This weeds out fake numbers or mistakes.

If you call......assume its her answering "Hey MELISSA, how are you".....works better than hey is Mel there?

Most important.........spin more plates.
 
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