Would it be a good idea to send this text?

[DiegoSantori]

Let's say, you've met a girl, you've been on a date, things went fine and you kissed. Strangely enough, however, she's been sending you mixed signals since then and you want to drive things forward. Would it be a good or bad idea to send this text?

"Let me be straightforward with you. My ex girlfriend wants to talk to me and I'm going to meet her tomorrow and listen to what she has to say. I guess, you understand, that if you're sending me mixed signals and other women are interested in me, I want to give them a chance too."

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Would it be a good idea to send this text?

In a word; no.

Forget mixed signals. Your lack of concern for her signals forces her to play her hand - she move further towards you, or further away. Simple. By doing nothing, you have your answer either way.

Spin plates. See your ex, whatever. Never chase. Offer to meet people, but never chase.

 

[SmooveMooves]

No, that's a horrible idea. That possibly the worst text idea I've ever seen presented. What in your time on So suave made you think that sending something like this would be okay?

If she's sending mixed signals her interest lvl isn't as high as you think it is. This means its time to pull back and start spinning other plates. If you want one of those plates to be your ex (which is also a terrible idea) then so be it. But you most certainly do not need to tell this chick that.

Ultimatums come from weakness. Which is essentially what your trying to do here. "If you keep sending mixed signals I'm talking to my ex". See how gay that sounds?

People give out ultimatums when they have no other choice or sense of power and most time that person ends up losing.

As the advice always tends to be here; SPIN PLATES.

 

[Eljuego]

Let's say, you've met a girl, you've been on a date, things went fine and you kissed. Strangely enough, however, she's been sending you mixed signals since then and you want to drive things forward. Would it be a good or bad idea to send this text?

"Let me be straightforward with you. My ex girlfriend wants to talk to me and I'm going to meet her tomorrow and listen to what she has to say. I guess, you understand, that if you're sending me mixed signals and other women are interested in me, I want to give them a chance too."

Christ NO.

Why?

"Let me be straightforward with you"....you don't want to be straightforward with her even if it is part of a ploy. Straightforward is predictable and boring. Predictable and boring won't build attraction.

"My girlfriend wants to talk with me".....the message this sends out is that your girlfriend has beckoned you and you are going running to her like her little puppy dog.

"I guess if your sending me mixed signals".....this is something a girl would say.

"Other women are interested in me".....you are trying to convince her of that with words. It will come across as needy and trying to impress her. Better if she sees that other women are interested in her.

"I want to give them a chance too".....it's very noble of you. But she'll see right through it.

If she is playing hot and cold....look what it's doing to you. You want to drive things forward.....

Why not play hot and cold with her? Show a little interest and withdraw. But when you withdraw, seek out other options. If she reaches out to you, don't respond straight away. Wait until the next day or longer. Turn the tables around on her.

 

[DiegoSantori]

Thank you, guys. As always, it seems like, the best solution is to be aloof, let her come to me and blow hot and cold.

 

[El Payaso]

Absolutely not. I forbid you from sending that text.

Do what you want to do but don't tell her zip. Jeez.