"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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would girls find a guy who doesn't drink not fun?

BeyondCharm

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Diaforetikos said:
It's ok not to drink. You have standards that you aren't going to cross. You value yourself more than you value women. That's good. If they can't handle you because you don't drink, eff 'em.

But you do have to learn to be just as fun as you would if you were perked or drunk. Women like fun. Plain and simple. If you have a strong inner game, then you shouldn't have to worry.
I don't drink period. I haven't had alcohol in almost 19 months. I have zero problems getting numbers, going out on dates and getting laid. The idea of a problem based on not drinking is an illusion of the mind and unreal. I am completely in control of myself and how I interact, completely aware of how they are responding and very capable of having a great time with someone who is drinking or isn't. I have no need to get an "easy lay" from a drunk girl but could any time I want to. Very few girls have ever been bothered by it, and the ones that are are idiots usually.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If you don't drink, More power and respect to you man. Obviously you value your healthy body above all else, and you should not let women change that just so you have the chance of getting sex from them.

I don't really drink. don't smoke, don't do any drugs, besides the occasional drink at parties, and I have had no problems with women. My gf likes to drink, but does not spend "tons of money" on alcohol like you put it, nor depends on it for happiness. She really only drinks when she goes out, and it's more of a taste thing, not to get drunk.

Most girls will not care whether you drink or not, don't let it deter you.
 

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BTW I don't think you should even care, to be honest.
This is the right answer. You've posted your question, got some responses, now forget it and do what you want to do. Be your own man. I imagine for some girls your not drinking would be a dealbreaker, but others will respect you for it. Overall, you will probably find yourself with a higher quality level of woman.
 

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Only if he actually isn't fun. If you're fun, it doesn't matter whether or not you drink. Drugs aren't a substitute for personality. If you aren't fun without a drink or two, I suggest you get out and get some life experience somewhere, learn to be social, work on improving yourself.
 

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This is how important your thoughts and values are to you:

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This is how important a random womans views are on your thoughts and values

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If you don't want to drink then don't drink. Any decent woman will not blow you off becaue you don't drink. I think most who are not drunk themselves would prefer the company of a non drunk guy... if he is not boring of course.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Step 1: Stop being concerned
Step 2: If asked, tell them you can have just as much fun without. And mean it of course!

An old friend of mine doesn't drink. People (myself included) were always trying to call him out, but he just told them flat out he doesn't drink.
If you then tried to give him the weird looks he would look you in the eye and say he's having an awesome night even without it, which he was.

That shut us up, and he started cracking the jokes ;)
 

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I dont drink either and never have. Ive come across the odd few people that insist on trying to make me drink but i see that in the same way as me trying to make them smoke. If anyone I met ever had a problem with me not drinking then I wouldnt give them a second thought. your life, your choices, I wont let anybody make me feel bad for being me :)
 

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Only thing your missing out on is dutch courage and stories that start with 'one time we got so drunk...'
 

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I drink, but not excessively. I will have one beer and make it last an hour. The reason for this is bad past experiences. When I get drunk, I say and do really stupid things which usually come back to haunt me later.

This seems to be the best way to go - you have fun, but not at the expense of your health, reputation or wallet.
 

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camdry90 said:
don't ever let anyone tell you that drinking is necessary man... i'm a recovering alcoholic addict and i know that i don't jive well with substances because they always lead to abuse... stay strong bud, theres other ways to have fun... and yes u can still party and have fun, just don't drink...
yeah, one of the main reasons I'm staying away from it. I'm pretty much preventing some horrible things from happening right now.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Any girl who would reject you purely for not drinking is not the sort of girl you really want anyway.

The only thing you might lose out on is with a quick fvck from slvtty party girls but other than that you should be fine.
 
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