"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Would a don quan unfriend his ex on fb?

bullethead

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I broke up with a girl, I can't get here out of my mind. I was thinking of unfreinding her on fb to help get over her, but at the same time I do not want to give her the advantage to think that she hurt me. Plus I am bound to see her again in person, because we are in the same program in school. Should I unfriend her or should I not. Any DJs with experience about this out there?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Zerro

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Most chicks I've unfriended have never noticed anyway (or at least they'll never commented on it). Just do it.
 

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A don juan is strong enough to delete women from his life and overall people that have done him wrong.

It's the weak men that are afraid to move on and keep that negative energy in their lives.

Delete her from your facebook, your phone, your IM, delete her from your life and move on! Don't keep negative energy of something that failed around you.
 

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"A don juan". Oh how that makes me laugh. Anyway, if you don't want to see someone in your feed,it's your feed. Nothing wrong with deleting them. Most won't notice, won't care or at least have the social grace not to make a fuss over it. Anyone who does have problem with it either loves the attention, wants to stick it to you, or is just butthurt. Problem?
 

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A Don Juan wouldn't be on FB. Only his persona would be there and only for such purpose that he knows what he is after.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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QueRico said:
A Don Juan wouldn't be on FB. Only his persona would be there and only for such purpose that he knows what he is after.
^This
 

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A Don Juan is not real. Some guys treat this mythical Don Juan like he is a God. Why don't you get your priorites straight so that you wouldn't care about her?

Personally I would delete her but I am not Don Juan. I'm A.J. This is your call... not anyones. It doesn't really hurt anyway but it would be to YOUR advantage to delete it.
 

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I was thinking of unfreinding her on fb to help get over her, but at the same time I do not want to give her the advantage to think that she hurt me.
It doesn't matter what she thinks. Do what's best for you. If you need to unfriend her to progress with your life, then do it.
 

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Desdinova said:
It doesn't matter what she thinks. Do what's best for you. If you need to unfriend her to progress with your life, then do it.
My thought also. A "DJ" worries about himself and does whatever advances his goals.
 

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Done! Blocked! And so are her friends. Wow that feels like a load has been lifted off of my shoulders! Thanks gentlemen!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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1.) Unsubscribe so you can't see her updates.
2.) Post your own updates with pics of you and friends/family/women showing how awesome your life is going.

EDIT: Bah. Too late. Good job nonetheless.
 

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@ Kurrupt not too late. That is what I did before. I unsubscribed to her and her friends before. But I couldn't stop going to her profile to check up on her, she just kept popping up on the left part of my friends list. Its completely over now at least, I really don't want her back.
 

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bullethead said:
@ Kurrupt not too late. That is what I did before. I unsubscribed to her and her friends before. But I couldn't stop going to her profile to check up on her, she just kept popping up on the left part of my friends list. Its completely over now at least, I really don't want her back.
I had some pictures of my last oneitis lying around for a while and finally decided to trash them and felt great in doing so.

Now, optimally I never would have gotten to the point where I developed oneitis to the point where I had to take those measure but that ship already sailed so I just had to do what I had to do, delete all emails, phone number, texts, pictures, etc..
 

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Doesn't matter if you have an FB or not.. People on here need to stop with the analysis of FB in respect to value and quality of a person. If you're being a little b1tch on there complaining about all your misfortunes and 1st world problems, then you're a b1tch. If you just have it to talk to friends and keep up with what's going on it's totally cool. (I had one because I play in a band, I would use it for networking, and keeping up with concert dates.) But eventually I deleted it cause I got sick of seeing pvssy ass statuses from some of my friends who don't know how to man-up.. And attention seeking dumb ass h0s. I could've just deleted them, but would rather spare them the frustration of me "being pissed at them" since I love hangin with those guys. I just do most of my networking face to face, over the phone, over email, or over messageboards now. Sometimes I'll have a friend contact someone via facebook to give them my number and other info for gigs and booking. That's about it.

When I had an FB I always deleted girls when relations went sour. Some of them have said "Why did you delete me" and sh1t like that, but I just ignore them. Plain and simple.. I deleted them to get them off my mind, but I'm not going to communicate with them why I did because I'm trying to get them off my mind. It's not pvssy, it's being honest with yourself.

I say you should just delete her. You need to get her off your mind and NC is the only way to go.
 

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Definitely delete them. Saddly a lot of people actually take that ish seriously. I just nexted a chick the other day and happily deleted her after. I don't want to see what's going on in her life and she don't need to see what's going on in mine.

Also, about 6 months ago I got out a ltr that ended very painfully for both of us due to circumstances beyond our control, and we mutually NC'd (fb, texts, calls, etc) each other as we felt it would be easier to move on that way, and turns out it was. First couple months were hard but in the long run it definitely was better that way.

Ex, plate, some chick you were dating, whatever, when moving delete them out of your life and move on. No need to hang on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alex DeLarge said:
Doesn't matter if you have an FB or not.. People on here need to stop with the analysis of FB in respect to value and quality of a person. If you're being a little b1tch on there complaining about all your misfortunes and 1st world problems, then you're a b1tch. If you just have it to talk to friends and keep up with what's going on it's totally cool. (I had one because I play in a band, I would use it for networking, and keeping up with concert dates.) But eventually I deleted it cause I got sick of seeing pvssy ass statuses from some of my friends who don't know how to man-up.. And attention seeking dumb ass h0s. I could've just deleted them, but would rather spare them the frustration of me "being pissed at them" since I love hangin with those guys. I just do most of my networking face to face, over the phone, over email, or over messageboards now. Sometimes I'll have a friend contact someone via facebook to give them my number and other info for gigs and booking. That's about it.

When I had an FB I always deleted girls when relations went sour. Some of them have said "Why did you delete me" and sh1t like that, but I just ignore them. Plain and simple.. I deleted them to get them off my mind, but I'm not going to communicate with them why I did because I'm trying to get them off my mind. It's not pvssy, it's being honest with yourself.

I say you should just delete her. You need to get her off your mind and NC is the only way to go.

1st world problems. Redditor? (nawhals and bacon?) Anyway, this.

Also I'm tired of the butthurt pvssy posts on FB from the young guys, all the older guys have found jesus and decided to be pesudo lifecoaches and gurus dispensing sage wisdom, christianity and positivity. I just go on there for emailing a few friends, and running my FB pages for my clients and businesses. Reading what people actually write...ugh. Before I had it set where I only saw the things from the people I actually do like. Now it just vomits crap all over my feed. I just stay in page mode, do my pages for my clients and get the hell out. Hell I can usually tweet most of their updates so I don't even have to go to FB except to post videos they want embedded instead of linked.
 
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