"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi all! New here. I could've used this site many moons ago! Anywho, during the last yr. I have befriended a beauty thru my lil' league coaching. She had a bf but i would still throw occasional flirts towards her. Now single, we've been able to go to a football game and a basketball game in the last 2 wks..we have a great time but no contact (she practically jumps from the car when i drop her off). But she confides in a close mutual friend that she loves being with me, lotta fun, always laughing, blah blah.. should also note that i'm 17 yrs older than she is, but i can hold my own.

The flip side, i have a sexy friend who i've "dated" on and off since i was 20. The problem- not much free time!!! Work full time. Coach sports year round. Raise my two boys (11&8) solo...being that free time is valuable, at what point do u give up trying to sway such a sexy vixen and spend ur effort on a proven thing? Don't get me wrong, i understand she got out of a relationship. But, i feel that being a friend for the past yr thru youth sports that i may have somehow ended in an unescapable friendzone.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dude this looks like a friendzone issues settled up already. I wont bother to ask her to go outside.

You can look for IOIs and body language to get you the hints like if she is looking through your eyes and smiling unconsiously, playing with her hair or wanna sit you close, touching your shoulders, trying to get your attention etc... But if there is not any well just dont bother to ask. You cannot manifest them from nowhere...

But also she is on the verge of 30s... Some woman changes their behaviour when they hit certain age limit...

Be cautious and look for the signs.
 

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Agree. One thing, haven't tried any form of kino on her due to her fresh breakup. We have another basketball game we can attend next mon, and plan to try some form of light petting and such and see where it goes. No go, and i'll nix effort on this one. Thanks astrn.
 
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