Worth another shot?

[The Comeback Kid]

Before I delve into my situation, the recent threat by f283000 regarding the "two strikes" policy is spot-on: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154043. I had a girl stand me up several weeks back...it was "strike two" and I cut her off. No need for a girl to keep stringing you along.

Alright, now onto my issue. There's a girl I get along well with in a couple of my classes. Somehow, I had overlooked her for 2/3 of the semester, but once we started talking I found out she's really cool. She's seen me as "being myself" and we still talk, so I guess that's a good thing. Last week, I got her number. The next day, I texted her suggesting we grab coffee on (day of the week). Yes, I really prefer to call or ask in person, but the situation that day did not permit me to do either. A couple days later, I got a reply..."sorry I took awhile to get back to you, I've been super busy...I can't do anything because I have work and need to get lots done before break."

I have enough experience in the rejection department, so I feel it's safe to say this one isn't going to happen...right? The odd thing is that the next time in class, I was getting really good body language from her (I've started noticing that kinda thing). We haven't missed a beat in our conversations either (the kino is down a little, but that's about it). That reply from her has not affected me one bit, I've acted exactly the same since: energetic, engaging, and showing off my sense of humor, just like good times,

There was a posting on the SS homepage regarding "confident persistence." Is that worth a shot here? This girl is easy to get along with (she's friendly), we have a lot in common and she's not like many of the other immature slvts you see at college. As I mentioned earlier, I've completely been myself around her, which could either really help or backfire. I won't see her for another two weeks...should I consider giving this another shot or just leave things as they are? We have finals a couple weeks after Thanksgiving break, so the EASIEST time for anything to happen would be after winter break when we're back at school, so I'm thinking I tell her we should definitely keep in touch over the long break and then surely hang out when we get back.

 

[Tenzen]

get her digits, if anything you can contact her after the break. Lots of family stuff is coming up thanksgiving and Christmas i believe that's around the worst time to take a girl on a date or anything just wait till after to really sarge at her. It'll be a new year and shes waiting for new things...

 

[The Comeback Kid]

get her digits, if anything you can contact her after the break. Lots of family stuff is coming up thanksgiving and Christmas i believe that's around the worst time to take a girl on a date or anything just wait till after to really sarge at her. It'll be a new year and shes waiting for new things...

Well I have her number, so that helps. So at this point I need to wait a little over a MONTH AND A HALF before doing anything...luckily there are two big breaks in that stretch.

As I said before I'll need to do this when I get back from winter break. Now Thanksgiving is coming up, then it's a coouple weeks until finals, then we're off a month before classes again. I will, however, strongly encourage we keep in touch over break or w/e, because there's a small chance we'll be in the same classes again.

 

[Tenzen]

well there is time after thanksgiving and between Christmas, its a little crazy though. Just invite her to go Christmas shopping with you, but its hard to turn that into a date...hmm. Its more like two friends shopping. I think you can think of something good to take her to. Or something like sking/snowboarding depending on ur area is tons of fun. My first advice i think was a little off. You got a month n half to take her out, or at least hangout with her somewhere outside of school. You can forget about contacting her after new years if you haven't.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

I took out a calendar to see how much time there was between when I get back from Thanksgiving and when "study time" begins for our finals...less than two weeks. Hence, I'll likely be making the attempt when we get to school to start 2nd semester. However, I will need to say something that suggests we keep in touch over the long winter break. If that succeeds and she follows though, then I'm in business.

We're in school together, sure...but our hometowns are a "close" 2500+ miles away! As you can tell, that's a little bit of an obstacle right now since there is a 0% chance we'd see each other during the winter break. There are a lot of places to go to near where the school is, but ouside of a coffee shop, things get a little expensive for a first date. If I'm taking her to a little-more-pricey venue, she needs to be the real deal (or I atleast think this could work).

 

[Tenzen]

invite her to study with u then, quiz each other. Library is a free date. Go from there. So much more things can open up from just spending some 1 on 1 time with her, so it doesn't matter where you take her.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

invite her to study with u then, quiz each other. Library is a free date. Go from there. So much more things can open up from just spending some 1 on 1 time with her, so it doesn't matter where you take her.

I like the idea...but neither of the classes have a final.