worst pick-up year...

[pyros]

this is just getting pathetic.

In the last two months I've tried to pick-up a few chicks (after a few months I took for a break), and I got nothing in return.

Here's the story in short:

girl 1: I met her in a salsa event. We danced, etc, I felt she liked me, we exchanged numbers. The thing is she's from another country but anyway...I texted her to ask her out, she said that she was going on holidays for a week but that she would really like to see me when she's back. I said cool, let me know when you're back. It's been 8 days and I have not gotten any messages from her.

girl 2: I met her because she's friends with a friend of mine. We all went to party, and I danced with this chick, she grinded with me I got hard... I tried to kiss her and she rejected it nicely.
Anyway since I got her number, two days later I texted her and ask her out and she told me that she's really busy (actually she's not). I have to say that this young chick is a super attention wh-ore, but ok.

girl 3 and 4: I met them in a club. They were from France. They asked me if I had a gf, they told me they were single etc etc,we had some laughs, I had to leave so I got their number and their fb.
I added them on FB two days ago and they have not accepted my friend request for some reason.
I sent them a text to ask them to hang out and they did not reply. Weird...??????

girl 5: I added her on fb. She was very talkative...etc...I got her number. I called her one day, we talked for 10 mins and she seemd pretty nice and happy to hear from me. Some days later I asked her out and she agreed.
The day of the date she flaked 5 mins before we were suposed to meet without any particular excuse.

I talked to other girls but I got even less results with them...
This is getting ridiculous and lame at the same time.
This last year has been the worst in my pick-up affairs by far...


I wanna destroy the planet. Do you know how much effort I put just to get rejected dozens of times and maybe get one lay out of it? Jeez!! it is not worth it really.

P.S.
I am not ugly or anything.

 

[Heisenburger]

All down to mentality.

You could quite easily flip this around in your head and say to yourself - I'm just getting back into the swing of things after a break and im forcing myself into new interactions with some cool chicks I've met. I've even got 5 numbers. This is easy. I'll keep doing what I'm doing. Law of averages will eventually work for me. I'm a f.cking cool guy.

Nice work on your approaches by the way.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Don't let a few rejections get you down. You get down, your game loses it's edge = more rejections. You're just getting back into the swing of things, give it some time and keep approaching. Go out with a mindset to have fun and not solely to pickup chicks lessen the load.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Approach ten more females. You also gotta work the old parts of your flock. You should always be phucking, even if you drop your standards for a short period in order to do so. Women do not like to sniff desperation or a lack of sex on you. So anoint yourselves thoroughly with that stuff between a womans thighs.

Do what you have to do to raise your "hit %". All of us can do it, there are small things.

Figure out weaknesses in your game and ways to expand it.

We talk about social proofing, sometimes that's just having the right home-boys on a particular social set.

Also Dante1a was talking about "residuals" in that babes bring him other ones. As a physical trainer or male stripper or masseuse you could easily have residuals.

Most of us can stand to improve our physiques.

And your dress and style.

What about what fishing holes are you using? If you got bait for catfish you won't catch large mouth bass for example.

Is your portfolio diversified? It makes sense to have women of all age ranges, and a sugar momma isn't a bad thing to have if you are in the game.

 

[Desdinova]

this is just getting pathetic.

In the last two months I've tried to pick-up a few chicks (after a few months I took for a break), and I got nothing in return.

I took 7 months off from dating and ended up with the same problems. I honestly think our personalities get out of whack when it comes to interacting with women. I finally landed a chick and it's been going well.

Dry spells happen when you haven't been constantly surrounded by women. Keep your expectations low and immerse yourself socially. You'll get yourself back in alignment.

 

[badboyjmm]

I took 7 months off from dating and ended up with the same problems. I honestly think our personalities get out of whack when it comes to interacting with women. I finally landed a chick and it's been going well.

Dry spells happen when you haven't been constantly surrounded by women. Keep your expectations low and immerse yourself socially. You'll get yourself back in alignment.

Not to hijack the thread, but based on this, I guess it's not really a good idea to take a break then ?

I'm currently on a 1 month break where I'm trying to go out for fun, not trying to take to females plus not doing online dating. But still, I still feel frustrated by the fact that the previous attempt to acquire plates all failed. (I actually can't sleep very well since then)

I guess I should just man up and go through the motions

 

[Bingo-Player]

Whine whine whine

Are we supposed to be don jauns on this forum or whining little girls?

there are MILLIONS of women out there you CANNOT expect all of them to act the way you want them too,

they are women and a majority of them are completely insane but that shouldn’t matter to you anyway because you are an independent man whom is busy progressing his own life

all you want from a woman is for her to lay down and open her legs whilst you pound her for an hour or so and trust me after you’ve done that for a while it gets boring real quick

Once you understand that’s all a woman can really provide you with you start to explore other avenues of life

Learning or mastering a new skill for example provides far more self satisfaction than wasting weeks wondering what she meant when she said that sentence

Women are not complicated so long as you do not allow them to be , they thrive off manipulation , pedalization , attention and drama

If you simply approach with the attitude that you won’t be dealing with any of that today thankyou very much :yawn: then suddenly you will start filtering out low quality very quickly

if she finds you attractive she will submiss to you if not she will make her excuses and leave

a “dry spell” is only as long as your defeatist attitude wants it to be or perhaps you generally have better stuff to do , who cares ?

a plate text me Saturday morning asking what my plans were for the day

bingo : sorry im going fishing

Plate : so what youd rather go fishing than spend the day with me !?!

Bingo: no reply

So i go fishing and forget about her because i genuinely don’t care all she can offer me is sex and im not in the mood for it anyway

Within 24 hours she’s sending me X rated snapchats saying she’s bored

Free your mind from women pyros it will do you the world of good

 

[old_skoolr]

this is just getting pathetic.

In the last two months I've tried to pick-up a few chicks (after a few months I took for a break), and I got nothing in return.

Here's the story in short:

girl 1: I met her in a salsa event. We danced, etc, I felt she liked me, we exchanged numbers. The thing is she's from another country but anyway...I texted her to ask her out, she said that she was going on holidays for a week but that she would really like to see me when she's back. I said cool, let me know when you're back. It's been 8 days and I have not gotten any messages from her.

girl 2: I met her because she's friends with a friend of mine. We all went to party, and I danced with this chick, she grinded with me I got hard... I tried to kiss her and she rejected it nicely.
Anyway since I got her number, two days later I texted her and ask her out and she told me that she's really busy (actually she's not). I have to say that this young chick is a super attention wh-ore, but ok.

girl 3 and 4: I met them in a club. They were from France. They asked me if I had a gf, they told me they were single etc etc,we had some laughs, I had to leave so I got their number and their fb.
I added them on FB two days ago and they have not accepted my friend request for some reason.
I sent them a text to ask them to hang out and they did not reply. Weird...??????

girl 5: I added her on fb. She was very talkative...etc...I got her number. I called her one day, we talked for 10 mins and she seemd pretty nice and happy to hear from me. Some days later I asked her out and she agreed.
The day of the date she flaked 5 mins before we were suposed to meet without any particular excuse.

I talked to other girls but I got even less results with them...
This is getting ridiculous and lame at the same time.
This last year has been the worst in my pick-up affairs by far...


I wanna destroy the planet. Do you know how much effort I put just to get rejected dozens of times and maybe get one lay out of it? Jeez!! it is not worth it really.

P.S.
I am not ugly or anything.

Girl 1: Maybe shes not back from her holiday. Perhaps a harmless text maybe in order, asking how her hols are? You do talk about meeting girls at salsa dances alot on this site. Perhaps girls are talking behind your back about you being a creep and trying to pick-up there?

Girl 2: The way to get AW is not to not give them attention, perhaps you moved to quick and didnt give her time to wonder if you'd actually call. Also friends of friends?? Maybe your mutual friend has hinted something negative to her about you??

Girl 3 & 4: 2 French girls asking if your single at a club with alcohol involved?? Why get the number?? Why not show them a good time and head back to theirs that night?

Girl 5: Flaking occurs 90% of dates from Facebook, if your profile isnt showing the social value that makes you attractive to women, dont use it to pick-up...very simple. My rule of thumb is, never add, let girls add you and keep your profile private to friends only.

Perhaps its your decision-making that is inhibiting you from moving closer. Your trying which is great to see, but maybe some tweaks in your game are needed and abit of experience in when to push and when to pull.

Hope this helps.

 

[Bible_Belt]

For me, somehow everything gets a lot easier in the summer. Women just seem hornier.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

You're trying to hookup with women at the wrong places. Online (social media, Tender, POF, etc.) is not where you'll find quality chicks period. You may get a number one day, but they'll drop you the next. The women who frequent that BS usually aren't quality and just want validation. Their egos are so inflated they'll string along everyone because no guy is good enough for them.

Clubs are a slowly dying way of picking up chicks. Pretty much the only ones hanging around there anymore are bar flys or young attention wh0res.

The good women aren't going to be hanging around places like that looking for men.

 

[Desdinova]

Not to hijack the thread, but based on this, I guess it's not really a good idea to take a break then ?

You do what's right for YOU. I took my 7 month break because I was mad at women in general after two LTRs that turned out to be wh0res. I needed to get the anger out of my system. The side effect is getting rusty at game, but that can be re-acquired through practice and socializing.

 

[pyros]

but I wonder if the rest of the guys put as much effort as I do, I mean guys that have zero knowledge about Game, cause you know, I've been reading about Game etc for several years but they majority of guys I know just might have read one article, or they might have gotten a book about it but thought it was crap etc.

Whenever I see a guy with a cute chick I wonder if he was 'trying' to pick up chicks before he met her, of it he just got her by chance...

Damn it.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Whenever I see a guy with a cute chick I wonder if he was 'trying' to pick up chicks before he met her, of it he just got her by chance...

Damn it.

I can assure you that Most of the guys you see with “cute girls” have met them either through the work enviroment and or through their social circles not by chance or by pick up

Don’t be tricked into this mindset that everyone else appears to be doing better than you are its all a facade

“Perfect” relationships these days are far and few between, some people stay together simply because they cannot bear to be alone in the world

However there are far far far more singles than couples these days

 

[chaj3_11]

Personally i have always got better results with women when im NOT even trying. Sometimes trying too hard can be picked up on by girls.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Didn't read any of the above so forgive me if it was already mentioned.

Girl 1: so what if she hasn't texted you in 8 days? The fact that you still remember that exact number shows ur stressing too much. She probably felt that. You should have focused on fun with her rather than just her.
Girl 2: party girl, you said she is an attention *****, and a huge one at that. What are you gonna expect? Don't go after girls like these. Simple.
Girl 3 & 4: you met them in a club? Everyone knows that the whole point of going to a club (or anything similar) should be to have fun (first priority) and then take her home (second priority). Club girls are only looking for one night stands, not some whole dating event. You need to go the whole mile when at a club scene. You don't ask for her number and leave, that's too timid. Go for the home run.
Girl 5: if you just added her on Facebook then that's a little weird but it isn't the strangest thing I've ever heard so whatever. If you do know her, somehow, then this one is on her and isn't your fault. I don't know what went wrong but hey, out of the 5 girls here, you did something wrong with 4 of them (5 if you don't know that last girl at all) and learned at least 3 new things to fix your mistakes. No biggy.