mahon83050
Banned
Over years of experience and various readings by various love doctors, I come to agree that: "Attraction does not work the same" for men and women. David Deangelo has mentioned about this in some of his postings.
As men, we are very visual and "looks" have heavy, heavy weight on who we are attracted to. Since we only see things through the eyes of a male, we think women are the same. WRONG! Women are attracted to handsome men and handsome men do have it easier. However, it does not have as much weight as it does with men. Lack of self-confidence, depression and shyness is a HUGE TURNOFF for women even if you look like Pitt. Ya see, that is the main difference. MOST men do NOT care if a women is insecure, shy, non-assertive etc. WOMEN DO CARE, if a man has these qualities. If a man feels sorry for himself, is a WOMAN going to be attracted to him? NO!! No matter how rough your life is or if you feel like the victim, you cannot feel sorry for yourself. IT IS THE KISS OF DEATH because it brings out those negative qualities mentioned earlier. I know it is hard, but you CANNOT!
I have used the process of elimination in my own failures with women. Let's see, am I short? Nope, that is not my problem. I am not saying short guys cannot get girls but it is a handicap for some. Am i fat? Nope, I look physically fit. Am I facially ugly? Nope again. Well, lets see, it must be MY attitude and my depressed emotion (which is not entirely my fault (chemical imbalnce) but that is another issue.
Lets use this as an example:
John is 6'2", has the body of a Greek God and has a handsome face. John gets alot of looks from women,but he is shy, introverted, insecure and has some self-esteem issues. Eventhough John is bright and good-hearted his other negative attributes hide those.
Carl is only 5'6", has a nose slightly too big for his face, and is going bald. However, Carl is witty, assertive, confident and will not take any disrespect from anyone. Carl is no looker, but he is NOT ugly and chicks dig him.
Who do you think women would want to date? If you said, John WRONG ASWER!!
Now if this were reverse, MOST men would choose to date the female version of John. WHY? Because looks have more weight with men than women.
Looks do matter, no argument there, but they are only 1 of two things you must pass. Seems like in order to pass the physical attraction test with women, you have to be atleast average. Carl can probably pass for average on his best day. Like someone mentioned earlier, success with chicks is like eating dinner with a knife and fork. You cannot successfully eat a steak dinner without one pf them, same applies to women!
As men, we are very visual and "looks" have heavy, heavy weight on who we are attracted to. Since we only see things through the eyes of a male, we think women are the same. WRONG! Women are attracted to handsome men and handsome men do have it easier. However, it does not have as much weight as it does with men. Lack of self-confidence, depression and shyness is a HUGE TURNOFF for women even if you look like Pitt. Ya see, that is the main difference. MOST men do NOT care if a women is insecure, shy, non-assertive etc. WOMEN DO CARE, if a man has these qualities. If a man feels sorry for himself, is a WOMAN going to be attracted to him? NO!! No matter how rough your life is or if you feel like the victim, you cannot feel sorry for yourself. IT IS THE KISS OF DEATH because it brings out those negative qualities mentioned earlier. I know it is hard, but you CANNOT!
I have used the process of elimination in my own failures with women. Let's see, am I short? Nope, that is not my problem. I am not saying short guys cannot get girls but it is a handicap for some. Am i fat? Nope, I look physically fit. Am I facially ugly? Nope again. Well, lets see, it must be MY attitude and my depressed emotion (which is not entirely my fault (chemical imbalnce) but that is another issue.
Lets use this as an example:
John is 6'2", has the body of a Greek God and has a handsome face. John gets alot of looks from women,but he is shy, introverted, insecure and has some self-esteem issues. Eventhough John is bright and good-hearted his other negative attributes hide those.
Carl is only 5'6", has a nose slightly too big for his face, and is going bald. However, Carl is witty, assertive, confident and will not take any disrespect from anyone. Carl is no looker, but he is NOT ugly and chicks dig him.
Who do you think women would want to date? If you said, John WRONG ASWER!!
Now if this were reverse, MOST men would choose to date the female version of John. WHY? Because looks have more weight with men than women.
Looks do matter, no argument there, but they are only 1 of two things you must pass. Seems like in order to pass the physical attraction test with women, you have to be atleast average. Carl can probably pass for average on his best day. Like someone mentioned earlier, success with chicks is like eating dinner with a knife and fork. You cannot successfully eat a steak dinner without one pf them, same applies to women!
