"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Worst Advice You've Ever Received

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"It does not matter what people think of you, as long as you are happy" by a parent

Yer right, not only is this statement very self-centered and selfish it is also wrong, to get ahead in any field of life the opinion of your peers matters a great deal.

Take a co-worker of mine, she is extremly happy in her self, smug even. She is also obese, lazy, useless at her job and annoys the hell out of everyone around her, but what the hell as long as she is happy.. subjective satisfaction without objective evidence is a fools paradise.

Also it ignores the real and very valuable way to shape others views of you, according to how you want them to be shaped.
At the same time, you have to be very careful not to be a people please. You'll get walked all over and be a dog chasing his tail.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Huffman

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Why did I know, before reading this thread, that the very first post about bad advice would come from Mom?

Although I find it a bit disturbing that your mom would talk about money instead of feelings. Mine told me to always be emotional, because girls would love that... yours told you to get yourself a gold digger.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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daddymonsterpoodle

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Dad as well actually... Says a lot.
 

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Have something to fall back on....

This kind of thinking impedes you from dedicating 200% of yourself to your life's passion
 

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"You should totally turn up unannounced at that girls house that you kissed that one time. She will love the surprise!"

Almost got myself a restraining order lol. Oh to be 14 again...
 

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11. "Text her after the first date to tell her that you had a nice time."

I never got a second date when I did this.

12. "8MB of RAM is more than anyone will ever need."

That's what the guy at the electronics store told me in 1994 when I bought a computer.

13. "Your car insurance goes down after you turn 25."

I'm 40 with no accidents and still pay through the azz.

14. "She likes you. She's just playing hard to get."

She's not interested.

15. "She doesn't know what she wants."

It's clear what she doesn't want.

16. "Don't eat before coming to this party/dinner at our house. We're gonna have tons of food."

You'll arrive starving and nothing will be ready for at least two hours. Everybody else will be too drunk to notice or care. ALWAYS eat before going to a party or dinner at somebody's house.
 

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High School Football Coach, "Hey Dust 2 Dust do you want to play football? We need more players. You don't need to be any good."

Reality: We're looking for tackling dummies for our starters to run over.

Ex-girlfriend, "You should buy this house because it has a huge pool in the backyard."

Reality: You will be out there every weekend cleaning and balancing out chemicals. If a part breaks you will spend a small fortune getting it fixed. It will be a hole that you endlessly throw money into.

My Mom, "Beauty is only skin deep"

Reality : Ugly is to the bone.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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daddymonsterpoodle

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Come on this double date. It will be fun.

Pull my finger

Scull this gin. itll be awesome.

Have some of my ouzo. You'll like it.
 

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I agree with Dust muffin that you can't oddjob your way into *****. But once you're tapping it on the regular I've never worked out how to avoid the boyfriend tax. On the plus side I've learnt a lot about fixing houses:rolleyes:
 

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Ex-girlfriend, "You should buy this house because it has a huge pool in the backyard."

Reality: You will be out there every weekend cleaning and balancing out chemicals. If a part breaks you will spend a small fortune getting it fixed. It will be a hole that you endlessly throw money into.
^This. Pools are a full-time job and a big expense. Can't agree more
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No advice that was necessarily given to me personally, but bad advice that is often given in general:

1. Just be yourself (i.e. do not pursue self-improvement)
2. Good things come to those who wait
 

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Here's my pep talk from my trainer right before my first fight:

You're going to get knocked the fvck out! You'll be laying there twitching. You're going to be an embarrassment to me, you, and everyone else in the goddamn building.

Talk about taking the wind out of your sails. I looked terrified every time the other guy took a swing at me. Afterward, when the last bell rang, my gf heard my trainer say to his wife: Well, he did better than I thought he'd do. I thought he'd get knocked the fvck out.
 

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Agreed. "Be yourself". To an inexperienced young man this obviously does not work.
 
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The unanimous winner for bad advice is mother's, with a large sample of father's as the runner up.

Did anyone have a red pill mother who called relationships like they are and didn't apologize for being feminine?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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