"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So there's this really pretty girl I have been spending time with. But she drives me up the wall, is incredibly annoying. But I could not figure out exactly why everything she says bothers me so much until it occurred to me. She worships everything and everyone.

Whenever she talks about any random dude it's "he's a badass" and "he's a baller" then she mentions how awesome his car is or whatever. And this goes on and on and on and not always about only people either. This goes for inanimate objects as well. We go to ride bike and she's gassing her bike telling me how awesome it is and on and on and on. It's just a regular $200 or so bike. Everything is on a pedestal for her, and just to be clear 95% of what she says involves this random worshiping. I really cant have a conversation with this girl about anything else. And it does carry over to me too. She's constantly complimenting me, and it's cool and all but when you are getting it literally all the time it gets old and makes me feel uncomfortable. I mean save it for when I do something good right?

She's really pretty but i'm about to cut her off because i'm so not like this. I have no role models or anyone I look up to, people are people to me. I'm just not excited about anything short of a million dollars cash in my hand that's for me to keep.

Has anyone here ever encountered this that can offer me a little insight? I really don't know if i'm just being stupid about this or not.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not had anything direct but just a thought, maybe she is over compensating for something. Maybe she lacked stability in her childhood. You'd really have to post more background info though to get a better insight.

Other than that only thing to add is if you can't stand to be around her the move on. 7 billion people on the planet, can't like em all.
 

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She totally lacked stability in her child hood, big times. I'm starting to realize now this is because of that...
 

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I don't have direct experience, but I know a chick that loves to count other people's money.

"His new job must pay like 80k."

"He's probably clearing 120k at that company."

"I can't believe that b@tch got promoted. She's probably up to like 85k."

I'm like you Sgt. I don't worry about what other have or make or own. I would get annoyed by someone that worships everybody else. It sounds very AWish to me like a celebrity gossip of sorts. I'd phase out this plate.
 

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SgtSplacker said:
constantly complimenting me, and it's cool and all but when you are getting it literally all the time it gets old and makes me feel uncomfortable. I mean save it for when I do something good right?
funny. how many times the HBs might think something like that. ;)

just tell her. i mean if that is how she deals with the world you gotta appreciate that. but you also can tell her how that makes you feel (as gay as that sounds), she should understand.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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flashpoint said:
funny. how many times the HBs might think something like that. ;)

just tell her. i mean if that is how she deals with the world you gotta appreciate that. but you also can tell her how that makes you feel (as gay as that sounds), she should understand.
Yeah man totally, the first time I had a girl treat me something awesome like this is when I learned to never put girls on a pedestal or treat them any different than anyone else. It just makes you feel weird, you loose any connection with that person you had. It's like, well i'm just me, WTF is this person thinking?
 
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I had a high school buddy like this. Everything was great to him, never had a bad opinion on shyt! This type of music is cool, so is this one, and this one is awesome too. That shyt gets old. To me, it just appears they never thought honestly about anything in life and dismisses all things as great. You can't love everything, always, period. It's like if you punch them in the face they'll say, "woah, that was an awesome shot!" Seriously?
I understand the character type...it's like you want them to experience something crappy just to have them admit a dislike!

I don't blame you for wanting to cut her loose, it would drive me up the wall, too.
 

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I really can't even have a rational conversation with this girl about current events or something. It's like a "worship mode" she is on and cant do anything else with her brain. It's a tuffie because she really likes me alot (no surprise) but I really need someone I can talk to rationally. Our conversations go like this.

Me: So WTF is up with the recording of Romney?!
Her: You know I love you right? You have the broadest shoulders, you should have been a boxer.

Like literally, i'm not joking...
 
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