Worried i'm losing intrest in women now i'm getting them.

[demonic]

Ok this is gonna sound retared and believe me i'd think the same thing if it was me reading this and not writing it.

but in the last 2 weeks i've had 2 ons...both the sex was amazing!!...and the girl last night was in looks like an 8.
but with every ons i have, i'm just losing ALL intrest in women...

I came outta a bad relationship about 2 months ago, and since then it's been diffrent..i just don't think of women in the same way.Even when i'm with really nice girls i lose intrest quickly.

I guess i'm asking is is it normal at some point to lose intrest if you get what you've always wanted?.Like i've always wanted to get the girls and now i have it's really hurting my game badly..like now i've got em i'm bored.

Hope this is just a temp thing...but anyone else experience this?.

Demonic

 

[Interceptor]

This is a very deep topic.

Part of this is a lack of strong values right now.

The relationship sapped some of that love and emotional energy.
So what you're doing now is retreating Emotionally form these women.

These women you had a ONS will probably never be emotionally attached to you , or give you the love and affection you need. That's why you drew them into your life.


But right now, neither can you .

You are emotionally absent.

You can't seem to muster up interest, because you lack the resources.

Does this make sense to you?



You are doing this as a self protection mechanism. But you aren't sure how this is working.


You're lack of values means a lack of identity for the moment.

If your Happiness and success in the future is important to you, you may want to investigate why you are emopty and absent. And why you are retreating.

And how to get this back, and feel love and affection and the emotional strength and freedom.
This means you must re asess your Values, hence, your Identity will re emerge.

 

[demonic]

That actually made alot of sense, thanks Interceptor!.

Although it's very difficult atm considering i enjoy going out saturday nights to chase girls and everything..now i have'nt that intrest atm i had to force myself to say yes to going out tonight.

Just feel like i'm wasting my time with ons and all that as it does'nt make me very happy and i kinda lose intrest once a girl has sex with me if it's too quickly.

I wonder how many Don juan's have had the same thing happen to them?

Demonic

 

[Interceptor]

I remember reading somewhere, where they made studies of new lottery jackpot winners.

Most of them never had any money. So thy had no frame of reference to go by.

Turns out, all of them lost the majotiy of their winnings, some even lost all of it, in the FIRST YEAR.


What is happening here?

A Frame of Reference that is 'set' in your neurology.

This frame of reference many of these people, and some here, did not let them form an image of themselves as successful and living with abundance.
In short, even thought they had a lot of money, they still felt, and saw themselves as poor people.
So what did they do?

They self sabotaged everything to 'get back' to their ORIGINAL "SET POINT"of poverty or low income.

They 'intentionally' LOST all their winnings.

You didn't know that the human mind can be that fvcked up , did you?

They fulfilled their Self Fulfilling Prophecy.

New winner: "I am a poor person."

The Universe: "OK, your Wish is my command" POOF!

YOU LOSE ALL YOUR MONEY.

Your 'wish' is granted.

They could NOT 'see' themselves as rich wealthy people with abundance.

This can happen to men whom were not used to having CHOICES and OPTIONS in the past, with regards to dating women.

Guy:" I never get any women."

Universe; "OK your wish is my command." POOF! No more women.


"But I'm getting women!"

Not for long.
the lottery winners 'got money'.
But they lost it.
What may happen to you?


You attract that which you resonate with.

Tell me, have any of these women whom have miraculously appeared in your life been high character high quality women, whom demonstrate love and affection and genuine support and concern for you?

Probably not likely.



In addition, deep rooted sexual issues are always there unless dealt with.
They do not simply vanish. They are there, and even for so long that they've become part of the scenery, you will continue to ignore them, while they continue to dominate your life and thoughts and decisions.

Feeling guilty for having sexual desires, or ashamed in some way WILL affect your mindset and mess your 'vibrations' and 'energy'.

Just some stuff to start thinking about...

 

[L B]

Careful to not get burnt out...

Spinning too many plates or hooking up with too many girls at one time can mentally and physically drain you.

 

[SinJester]

This can happen to men whom were not used to having CHOICES and OPTIONS in the past, with regards to dating women.

Guy:" I never get any women."

Universe; "OK your wish is my command." POOF! No more women.


"But I'm getting women!"

Not for long.
the lottery winners 'got money'.
But they lost it.
What may happen to you?

Wow, I just realized that might have happened to me... Did I self-sabotage myself so that I'm no longer picking up a bunch on girls? Interceptor, what can we do to fix this?

The story about the lottery reminded me about hearing people who have plastic surgery to make them beatifull and then when they look in the mirror they still feel ugly.

Is awereness enougn for prevention?

 

[jamescr73]

Im going through the exact same thing man. I got out of a 3.5yr LTR about a year and a half ago, and since I have slept with 6 women, 3 of them were ONS. Seriously, after I had sex with all of them (except 1 she was fu*king amazing), I was ready to kick them to the curb. I literally had no emotion, or attachment. 3 of them turned into short term relationships which were learning experiences for me. I think after 18 months im finally ready to move on, and possibly develop the emotion it takes to start to like someone again. Best bet after getting out of an LTR, is to take some time for yourself. Hit the gym that always makes me feel better, watch some movies, get a hobby, build a fence, do something to take your mind off the whole dating scene. Spend some time with guy friends and do guy stuff, and dont talk about women. Just have a good time. Live your life a little bit. Go skydiving, do something totally insane. Once you figure yourself out and who you are, then hit the scene again. You'll be find bro.

 

[demonic]

If this does'nt change soon i might just give up on women, i mean what's the point in constant ons when you feel used/sad or dejected in the morning?.

I just wanna connect with a girl rather than just have sex and then leave....bah..i might be sounding alittle ungrateful but i'm sure some of you know what i mean.

 

[DJ Axton]

Its funny cause ive been feeling exactly the same thing. Though one thing ive noticed is that since this has started happening, i have improved incredibly academically. Its like that episode of Seinfeld where George gives up sex for a while and becomes really smart.

When I was younger I used to do really well at school, but never got girls. When I started to get into te game and all that I noticed my academic performance worsen. Now maybe my mind has achieved a balance between both lives. Is it possible that this happens after a while? The practical brain and the brain obsessed with sex finally form a balance? I guess this is what we strive for eventually.

 

[DonGorgon]

I feel the same way... I want the right woman for me not many mediocor two week flings...

I keep meeting females who only want flings.. even the ones with boyfriends dont really give a damn about their relationships... its like everyone is out for money and easy sex and its very depressing...

I dont see my self ever marrying any of these females. sooo i dont know it all just seems hopeless..?!

 

[demonic]

At this point in time i'm thinking that i'm never gonna meet the right girl....

i've still got my last relationship in my head like over a month on ;(((