You should be... you're worried in the first place!
I'm sure everyone here has been in a situation where they wondered if the girl really liked them or not, thanks to those wonderful things we like to refer to as signals.
A lot of us seem to get postive signals all the time at first. Then we start to pursue. Things go either one way or another at this point. We succeed, or we fail. By failing, I mean getting "mixed" signals. Signs of interest along with signs of disinterest.
I could go into the psychology of why things are this way, but I'm not going to. What I will let you know is that when you start to get mixed signals, you're generally in a yellow zone... a zone that if you don't act quickly, her interest level is going to steadily drop until it hits the point of no "immediate" return.
I know what you're asking... how do I act, what do I do? I'm confused! She acts like she likes me one minute, but then says/does something different the next. HELP!!!
Well, first, lets tackle the inner problem... your MIND. Your mind has a habit of playing tricks on you, especially when it comes to a woman you think may be interested in you. When you make a single woman a "goal" to obtain, you turn the situation from focusing on yourself (e.g. "We had fun together, we ought to hang out more.") to focusing on her (e.g. "We had fun together, I really want to hang out with her more!") Notice the difference? It's subtle... VERY subtle. Also, by making her a goal, she becomes something you can either pass at obtaining, or failing at obtaining. We all know that the fear of failure is 95% of the time was causes us to fail. We get nervous, and with people in general, what we feel will become what they feel, if it is overwhelming enough. Ever been talking to someone and suddenly experienced an awkward moment? It's usually because the "tention in the air" gets overwhelming. Ever been in a good mood, then tried to help out your buddy who was depressed, and suddenly wasn't in too good of mood anymore? Same thing... of course, there have probably been times where you were so happy, nothing could bring you down, and the people you're around start to become more energetic around you. You overwhelmed them with happiness! Amazing, huh?
Anyways, back to the point. When she becomes something you can fail at, you'll get nervous, worried, etc. and start to overanalyze trying to figure out what to do to make things better. This, my friends, is BAD. You will start to notice MIXED SIGNALS MORE! What? Yes, that's right, you will start to notice more NEGATIVE signals... signals you shouldn't even be paying attention to in the first place!!! Why is that so Dr. Skweints? Because you're moving into a negative mindset.
So, how do we correct this? Well, first, never put a woman as a goal. Second, don't get into the wrong mindset which will cause you to over analyze everything. Stay positive!!! Third, HAVE FUN! HAVE FUN HAVE FUN HAVE FUN!!! If you're having a blast, you'll NATURALLY make any woman you're talking to have a blast. When she's having a blast, she will have forgotten about those negative signals, and be nothing BUT positive. Yeah, girls are weird like that. Take her out, kino her up, make her laugh, show her how much fun she can have with you, then take off! Next time she's in a bad mood, and wants to be happy, she'll MAKE sure you're there.
Any questions?
I'm sure everyone here has been in a situation where they wondered if the girl really liked them or not, thanks to those wonderful things we like to refer to as signals.
A lot of us seem to get postive signals all the time at first. Then we start to pursue. Things go either one way or another at this point. We succeed, or we fail. By failing, I mean getting "mixed" signals. Signs of interest along with signs of disinterest.
I could go into the psychology of why things are this way, but I'm not going to. What I will let you know is that when you start to get mixed signals, you're generally in a yellow zone... a zone that if you don't act quickly, her interest level is going to steadily drop until it hits the point of no "immediate" return.
I know what you're asking... how do I act, what do I do? I'm confused! She acts like she likes me one minute, but then says/does something different the next. HELP!!!
Well, first, lets tackle the inner problem... your MIND. Your mind has a habit of playing tricks on you, especially when it comes to a woman you think may be interested in you. When you make a single woman a "goal" to obtain, you turn the situation from focusing on yourself (e.g. "We had fun together, we ought to hang out more.") to focusing on her (e.g. "We had fun together, I really want to hang out with her more!") Notice the difference? It's subtle... VERY subtle. Also, by making her a goal, she becomes something you can either pass at obtaining, or failing at obtaining. We all know that the fear of failure is 95% of the time was causes us to fail. We get nervous, and with people in general, what we feel will become what they feel, if it is overwhelming enough. Ever been talking to someone and suddenly experienced an awkward moment? It's usually because the "tention in the air" gets overwhelming. Ever been in a good mood, then tried to help out your buddy who was depressed, and suddenly wasn't in too good of mood anymore? Same thing... of course, there have probably been times where you were so happy, nothing could bring you down, and the people you're around start to become more energetic around you. You overwhelmed them with happiness! Amazing, huh?
Anyways, back to the point. When she becomes something you can fail at, you'll get nervous, worried, etc. and start to overanalyze trying to figure out what to do to make things better. This, my friends, is BAD. You will start to notice MIXED SIGNALS MORE! What? Yes, that's right, you will start to notice more NEGATIVE signals... signals you shouldn't even be paying attention to in the first place!!! Why is that so Dr. Skweints? Because you're moving into a negative mindset.
So, how do we correct this? Well, first, never put a woman as a goal. Second, don't get into the wrong mindset which will cause you to over analyze everything. Stay positive!!! Third, HAVE FUN! HAVE FUN HAVE FUN HAVE FUN!!! If you're having a blast, you'll NATURALLY make any woman you're talking to have a blast. When she's having a blast, she will have forgotten about those negative signals, and be nothing BUT positive. Yeah, girls are weird like that. Take her out, kino her up, make her laugh, show her how much fun she can have with you, then take off! Next time she's in a bad mood, and wants to be happy, she'll MAKE sure you're there.
Any questions?