"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Workplace warfare.

Lion

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I've recently started in a new place of work.

I get called in when my boss needs me, much like many of my fellow employees. We are on a list, like a pool of workers, and called up successively.


I feel like Im sometimes in competition to prove myself and covertly earn more work than my other employees. :D I want as many hours as possible.

:box:


Basically I need to find out if someone is stirring things up for me.
I need to sort this out.



There are two main contingents involved, I will refer to them as:

Guy 1.

Guy 2.

So Guy 1. is a pretty easy going person who I get on with ok. He gets full time hours, despite starting the same time as me.
This is his only job.


Guy 2. is also easy going and someone who I get on with but not as well as 1. Hes a little older and more focused in life and has another profession as well as this job.







Quite randomly, Guy. 2 told me this afternoon in the car on the way home.

"You should watch out for that guy. 1, he said some funny things."

Today at lunchtime my boss asked where I was (in the office waiting for some paperwork to be faxed through). We are often out and about and not always on view.

"Guy 1. said you (me) were sitting in the office on my a** being a lazy B*stard"


I replied to guy. 2 in the car, "hes probably trying to make himself look like a better worker than me" brushing off the sudden piece of advice.


My instict says guy. 2 may be stirring things up for me and that guy. 1 was joking about me being lazy, perhaps humouring the boss?





What should I do:


A: Confront guy 1. asking him if he said what I heard he said.

B: Ask guy 2. for more info on what guy. 1 said (who else was around etc.. for proof)

C: Take my boss aside and clarify what actually happend.

D: ......?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Doggystyle

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Do all three and get to the bottom of things or just forget about it and wait to see if anything else arises.
People often get the wrong end of the stick so it could just be a missunderstanding.......or a huge conspiricy!!!!!!!!
 

Lion

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haha, yeah, I guess I just needed to write things down and get them off my mind. My job means a lot to me :)
 
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