Workplace pickup next move?

[londonguy89]

I'll keep this as short as possible. I met this girl at a work function. She said she had a boyfriend but I got her number by inviteing her and her friends out with me and mine. We asked them out several times but they never came. So I lost interest in this girl because she didn't seem interested. This was months ago, now whenever we see eachother at work she always says hello and holds really long eye contact. This girls head turns like an owl when she walks past me. I'm thinking about giving her another go but I'm unsure how to go about it and I'm not sure if she is just teasing. Getting to talk to her alone is quite hard without hanging around looking desperate. And texting her seems a bit weak. Any advice?

 

[flashpoint]

workplace - no go
boyfriend - no go

why even bother? and if you can find a reasonable answer to that (which i doubt), what about just starting a little chit chat when she says hello next time? establish a habit of talking to each other then build on that. your theory seems to be that she is interested, now go test it (if you think you must)

 

[omega05]

She looks at me when she talks to me, does she like me? Move on

 

[RedZone]

Totally not worth it. Last thing you need is problems at work because a relationship didn't work out.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

He's not asking her to marry him tomorrow.

London: If she's holding EC for that long it can only mean one of two things:

a) she's now single and is interested

b) she is still with her bf, but misses the flirty attention you use to supply her with.

Only way to find out is to re-engage. Start flirting with her a bit and see if she is receptive to it. If she seems to be enjoying it, then set up a time/place to hang out.

If she flakes out, cancels or doesn't offer another time then you can move on for good.







PIMP

 

[londonguy89]

He's not asking her to marry him tomorrow.

London: If she's holding EC for that long it can only mean one of two things:

a) she's now single and is interested

b) she is still with her bf, but misses the flirty attention you use to supply her with.

Only way to find out is to re-engage. Start flirting with her a bit and see if she is receptive to it. If she seems to be enjoying it, then set up a time/place to hang out.

If she flakes out, cancels or doesn't offer another time then you can move on for good.







PIMP

Thanks for the advice PIMP. Thanks for being positive too, something some other responders have trouble with it seems.

 

[perseverance]

Thanks for the advice PIMP. Thanks for being positive too, something some other responders have trouble with it seems.

Or it could be that their answers weren't what you wanted to hear, so if that's the case, then it is you with the problem, not them.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Or it could be that their answers weren't what you wanted to hear, so if that's the case, then it is you with the problem, not them.

I'll def agree with you dude, there are tons of people here who post and get super defensive and pissed when they don't see a couple people post a reply that they want to hear.

This is not one of those cases.

Here we have a chick who was involved with someone at the time when she met the OP and was obviously into that guy enough to rebuff the OP advances.

Now its been several months and who knows what the situation is? She might be single and now ready to see if there is something there between them two?

She might have lost interest in her bf enough to start the search for his replacement as we all know women do.

NEXT is used too often here in replies when a girl isn't showing 100% interest at any point. The reality is, most girls won't be 100% head over heels interested right off the bat, sometimes it takes some work.

If you only go after girls that show overt high interest, your missing out on a lot of women.








PIMP

 

[perseverance]

I'm not disputing anything you've said there PIMP. You could well be right with what you're saying, but there are instances on this forum where people have thrown their toys out of the pram when they have been told things they do not want to hear.

This is an opinion based forum and people will express their opinions and sometimes it's not what people want to hear, but that's just the way it is. You have to get used to it. In my personal opinion, I think the OP has nothing to lose by going after what he wants, if he gets what he wants then fantastic, if he doesn't, then hard luck, someone better will come along at some point in the future.

 

[stuartwhyte00]

Workplace is always tough.