“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Workplace Girl

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Girl works at my job has started coming to my office and chatting it up with me and my boy. It was casual at first so I played it cool. My boy on the other hand calls her office and texts her. I figured oh well he got it but she always seems to come to me touch me or try spark convo. I think he is giving her too much attention. He tells me today he thinks she has a crush on me from him talking to her all the time lol. This ever happen to yall? A girl likes u but is shy so she trys to be friends with ur friend?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Since this is at work, KEEP PLAYING IT COOL. For ****'s sake.

Don't call this chick, don't email her, don't text her. Maker her do EVERYTHING.

As to your question, you say she likes you and is touching you (don't touch her), and not him? Then she likes you. She'll probably use him to make you jealous, to get you to make a move. Don't give her the satisfaction. Be a cool dude. Because right now, it sounds like you're jealous of the attention she's giving your friend. Which means it's working. This stuff's easier said than done though.
 

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yea I guess I am a little and it is hard to do but thats what I have been doing. I went downstairs today told her I was coming back but I stayed busy and low and behold she calls later saying I thought u was coming back, So yea Im just gonna relax and ignore the jealousy tactics
 

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It's tough man, especially since you have to see them all the time. People say "forget her and focus on other girls" and that's the right thing to do, but let's be realistic, she's there. Every day. You're going to keep seeing each other and the attraction on your end is going to get bigger and bigger. This is how drama starts.

No, it isn't easy. But the mindset I would suggest you adopt, is that if she hooks up with your friend (probably won't happen) you are TOTALLY COOL WITH THAT. You don't care. It's just a game anyway. You show her that you don't need to compete with other guys because you are the only you, and there is no competition for that.

When you're meeting a girl at a club or just at a bookstore or something, yes, that's the time to take initiative. But this isn't like that. She's not going anywhere. So you don't have to do all that courting stuff.

No more, "yeah I'll be right back". You've got things to do. Believe me, if she wants to be around you, she WILL be there. She may try to wait you out, to see if you're going to react first, don't. Make her come to you, always.

When she IS around you, be cool, have fun, make her feel comfortable, tease her, whatever. That's her reward.

I would say be very cautious with this. Doesn't mean you can't have some fun. Doesn't mean you can't flirt and be sexual. But she needs to be competing for your attention. Not the other way around.

Again, not easy to do. But in my opinion, that's the way to go. Some other guy may come here and say, "just bang her". Just recognize there are consequences to having to see someone all the time, "after the fact". You never know, you may end up making this chick fall hard for you. Better than you falling for her first. Challenge. Humor. Indifference. And being a classy guy at the same time.
 
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