"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Workplace Girl

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Girl works at my job has started coming to my office and chatting it up with me and my boy. It was casual at first so I played it cool. My boy on the other hand calls her office and texts her. I figured oh well he got it but she always seems to come to me touch me or try spark convo. I think he is giving her too much attention. He tells me today he thinks she has a crush on me from him talking to her all the time lol. This ever happen to yall? A girl likes u but is shy so she trys to be friends with ur friend?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Since this is at work, KEEP PLAYING IT COOL. For ****'s sake.

Don't call this chick, don't email her, don't text her. Maker her do EVERYTHING.

As to your question, you say she likes you and is touching you (don't touch her), and not him? Then she likes you. She'll probably use him to make you jealous, to get you to make a move. Don't give her the satisfaction. Be a cool dude. Because right now, it sounds like you're jealous of the attention she's giving your friend. Which means it's working. This stuff's easier said than done though.
 

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yea I guess I am a little and it is hard to do but thats what I have been doing. I went downstairs today told her I was coming back but I stayed busy and low and behold she calls later saying I thought u was coming back, So yea Im just gonna relax and ignore the jealousy tactics
 

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It's tough man, especially since you have to see them all the time. People say "forget her and focus on other girls" and that's the right thing to do, but let's be realistic, she's there. Every day. You're going to keep seeing each other and the attraction on your end is going to get bigger and bigger. This is how drama starts.

No, it isn't easy. But the mindset I would suggest you adopt, is that if she hooks up with your friend (probably won't happen) you are TOTALLY COOL WITH THAT. You don't care. It's just a game anyway. You show her that you don't need to compete with other guys because you are the only you, and there is no competition for that.

When you're meeting a girl at a club or just at a bookstore or something, yes, that's the time to take initiative. But this isn't like that. She's not going anywhere. So you don't have to do all that courting stuff.

No more, "yeah I'll be right back". You've got things to do. Believe me, if she wants to be around you, she WILL be there. She may try to wait you out, to see if you're going to react first, don't. Make her come to you, always.

When she IS around you, be cool, have fun, make her feel comfortable, tease her, whatever. That's her reward.

I would say be very cautious with this. Doesn't mean you can't have some fun. Doesn't mean you can't flirt and be sexual. But she needs to be competing for your attention. Not the other way around.

Again, not easy to do. But in my opinion, that's the way to go. Some other guy may come here and say, "just bang her". Just recognize there are consequences to having to see someone all the time, "after the fact". You never know, you may end up making this chick fall hard for you. Better than you falling for her first. Challenge. Humor. Indifference. And being a classy guy at the same time.
 
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