Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Greetings!

I'm currently reading through Starting Strength by Mark Rippetoe and Jason Kelly. I'm finding it quite informative. But am hestitant to try some weight lifting as I'm by my self ( no spotters).

Do you guys have any suggestions as far as weight loss and dieting is concerned? Should I even try to do both weight lifting and cardio (running)? Are there any good books? Looking on Amazon most seem to be some sort of fad diet or some weight lifting model trying to sell his/her name ontop of something else.

Some background I'm 220 pounds right now and hope to drop 40 and keep it off. I've been avoiding buying sugary foods and drinks at the grocery store, limiting my snacks to simple, generally plain chips or cheezits (rarely) and have been making more of an effort to cook and eat more vegetables. I'm also making it a habit to drink more water more often.

I also just purchased an Androidwear / Workout watch (Garmin vivoactive HR)
and I'm finding it to be a really great motivator. I love stats + metrics so the data it gives is awesome. It also has its own GPS so I don't even need my phone to go workout (I have an LG V10 which is ****ing huge and never fits right on the arm bands) and its accuracy seems pretty solid. This watch also reminds me to get up and move around, which I welcome as I work as a server admin ie. in front of a computer 8 hours a day for my job (do have a standing desk tho so that helps).

Would love some suggestions!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You have to do some work to get all the good info, but it's free and I highly recommend it.

What I ultimately took from it was that it's all about calories. And not just on a daily basis, but a weekly one.

If you start keeping track of what you consume you can mold your body as you want.
 

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If you start keeping track of what you consume you can mold your body as you want.
I'll check it out.
For calorie counting I've got the app MyFitnessPal which links with the Garmin app. I've never really counted calories before so it's interesting to think about. I'm using the barcode scanner to track all of my meals and snacks throughout the day.
 
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That's a good start. At one point, I went so far as to eat the same exact thing every other day...no need for an app when you eat the same things over and over.

@Espi actually played a big role in that; I never would have thought to eat a pound of ground beef with mustard and/or ketchup without him! haha
 

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If you are interested in calistenics, best books are "convict conditioning" series and also Al Cavadlo's books, they are awesome.
Check Pavel Tsatsouline on dragon door, good read too.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you are interested in calistenics, best books are "convict conditioning" series and also Al Cavadlo's books, they are awesome.
Check Pavel Tsatsouline on dragon door, good read too.
I do want to get into more calistenics. Thanks for the suggestions.
 

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I'd also suggest rounding it out with some Pilates or yoga class and if you can afford it a Thai massage with or without the happy ending every two weeks. Most guys neglect the stretching which leads to building up muscle tension and injuries and holds back their progress
 

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, I have started following a body challenge guide see here which helped me to lose weight. You can also follow such kind of fitness guide for the same.
I can't read French :/

I have found MyFitnessPal (calorie counting) plus regular running and drinking lots of water is already paying off.
I've lost 7 pounds since I started. I feel great!
 
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