"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Working your way up from 5s to 9s?

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As per title. When people who are starting out to approach more women etc, is it a better idea to try gaming 5s and 6s first then work your way up to the 9s?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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bukowski_merit

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I think it's a bad idea to approach women based on a number you assign to their attraction.

Do you find the woman you're looking at attractive?

Yes - Approach her.
No - Don't approach her.

The level of attractiveness shouldn't influence the decision to approach or not.
 

Willard

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I rate women on a 0 or 1, 0 means I'm not attracted 1 means I am attracted. If you treat all women the same whether they are attractive or not, you will be better off because you won't treat the attractive ones any different, so you won't put them on a pedestal.
 

Mike32ct

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It's not really about looks per se. Use your gut. What chick SEEMS like one that would go for you AND that you are attracted to? Doing target selection by HB number only is very inefficient.

But if you MUST go by numbers, then yes, work your way up.
 

SgtSplacker

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I'm so critical of 9-10s when I talk to them. I think they are all shallow deceptive gold diggers and they have to prove to me they are not. I'm much more comfortable with a 7-8. Every single 9-10 I have encountered is so FOS I don't even try to get their numbers.

Potential faults aside to find a 9-10 that can actually have any kind of intellectual conversation and is still single is nothing short of a miracle.

I gave up on the 9-10 range long ago. I'll hesitantly make conversation but will jet at the first annoyance.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don-Kong

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I don't even know if she's good looking or not until I'm 2 mins into conversation. Why? Approach approach approach. Who cares what they look like.

Building the vibe and momentum is the sh1t. But yes, go from opening guys, ugly girls, couples, hot girls then hot groups if you want a challenge.

Personally I just want experience the approach because I'm building a strong foundation so that it's easy in the future
 

HowardHughesDicaprio

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I don't see it as a pure beauty thing on the 1-10 scale but more of a cliques thing. If that 9 or 10 happens to work at a Gamestop or is more of a nerdy kind of girl then go for it, she might be down for a nice approach. A 9 or 10 that is part of less shallow cliques is always going to respond better than a 6 or 7 that is a part of the more shallow groups.

I would approach a 9 happens to work at a bookstore or is in a graduate class of yours then you are better off approaching her than approaching a 7 that happens to be a part of the more popular crowd in your given location.
 
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