"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Working with a group of girls at school...what to do?

Jon E

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I Just recently started working with a group of girls at school for a class that we are in. There are a few Id like to "get to know" a little better but its hard to send any signals since they are all in a serious "school mode" and really focused on the task at hand so to speak. Its hard to difuse that seriousness which makes it hard to use any ****y / funny that is my best asset.

What would be the best way to approach this, if at all? Or are they just too up tight?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DankNuggs

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When people are being overly serious, its the best time to use c&f, provided you don't act like an a$$ or make it seem like you don't care about the project/team....Suggest going out for beers after meetings...
 

Craig Reeves

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Once again, the TRY principle comes into place.

Just say something like, "Hey, listen guys. Since we're all getting stressed out over this, how about we all go out for (you name it). Maybe if we all get to know each other better, we'd enjoy doing this more."
 
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Pick the the best one and go for the kill - best to single out one only so that your personality can come out better in an one on one situation! A bird in the hand is better than 20 in the bush!!
 

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Don't forget about actually doing well on the project too. Impress them by being a leader, being creative, being prepared, and doing a fare share of the work. If the project is going well, everyone will lighten up, and then you can spit your game!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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