"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Working out and insomnia

Doc73

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For the last month or so I have been in a cutting phase and so far I have been getting great results (lost 15 lbs in the last month and a half). My endurance is up and I am in the best shape I have been in in a long time.

Here is my problem, I seem to suffer from a bit of insomnia that I feel is tied in to my working out and exercising. I have no problems getting to sleep just waking up way too early. The harder and more intense the workout the less I am able to sleep. I do not drink coffee or take any other caffinated products and am currently not taking any suppliments other than a multivitamin.

Has anyone else had this problem, or can anyone give suggestions on how I can get my proper sleep
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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You never mentioned how much sleep you are getting. People who regularly work out usually sleep less than sedimentary people anyway.
 

il_duce

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
You never mentioned how much sleep you are getting. People who regularly work out usually sleep less than sedimentary people anyway.
Sedimentary people? Don't you mean metamorphic people?

:D
 

MrFitness880

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Well before we change anything lets see if this is really a problem...

Are you not feeling well rested? Or is this just a change for you. I find when I workout I dont need as much sleep and often get more restful sleep.

How much sleep were you getting before and how much now?

Also how early is early when it comes to waking up?
 

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My blood is igneous
Mine is pure magma (Im very warm blooded) :D

Jokes aside let me give you an example:

On a typical day I usually work out for about 45 minutes to an hour. Sometimes I add cardio to that, sometimes not

I usually wake up between 6-7 am

On a heavier day (workout til failure, plus a 20k bike ride, and maybe a walk or hike afterward), I usually wake up the next day at around 4-5 am. I usually go to bed between 10pm to 1 am. However, no matter the time I go to sleep I always wake up at around the same time. This is how it has always been since I can remember

I am usually fine until the afternoon, when I get somewhat groggy. That passes eventually but my thought processes and motor functions are somewhat compromised.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by Doc73
For the last month or so I have been in a cutting phase and so far I have been getting great results (lost 15 lbs in the last month and a half). My endurance is up and I am in the best shape I have been in in a long time.

Here is my problem, I seem to suffer from a bit of insomnia that I feel is tied in to my working out and exercising. I have no problems getting to sleep just waking up way too early. The harder and more intense the workout the less I am able to sleep. I do not drink coffee or take any other caffinated products and am currently not taking any suppliments other than a multivitamin.

Has anyone else had this problem, or can anyone give suggestions on how I can get my proper sleep
Most likely it is all in your mind. The human mind is a poweful device. We can make ourselves sick, etc.

Have you ever heard of the placebo effect? This undesired occurance may be an example.

Scientifically speaking: your symptoms do not correlate with working out. Working out intensly and sleeping are -- generally -- an illusory correlation. There must be something else in your life that is going on, but you are not mentioning it.
 
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