"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hey! So I'm pretty shy but I'm usually able to come out of my comfort zone, I'm decent looking and IMO I've got a pretty good personality, and I'm usually confident; however, my biggest social downfall is that I'm not good at [improv] comedy/ making jokes on the spot. There's one thing I've noticed in HS, and that's that girls don't really care how dumb/unattractive/druggy someone is as long as they can make them laugh. With some effort I can usually make people laugh but that doesn't happen too often; unfortunately I've got more of a geeky sense of humour... and well....my jokes don't really appeal to many people :p So Imo, humour is the only thing getting in my way of being able to be a DJ. I'm not really sure what to do about this though, I've been analyzing things people do in classes to make others laugh and I've been able to improve my sense of humour a little by basically copying others' jokes and adding my own twists to them; however, I've noticed that comedy also has a lot to do with the way other people see you (reputation)... which sucks for me because I've been trying to shake off the image of me as a shy/geeky/creepy guy for quite a while, but changing people's views of you is pretty hard to do. Once people see you as something, it takes some effort to make them realize that you've changed.

Anyways, what I'm asking is how can I work on becoming a funnier person?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I had 4 friends freshmen year in high school. I was the definition of geek/nerd/nolifer/loser. There is nothing you can say to "how can I be funny" because it's not something you should try, it has to come naturally. You need to be someone who finds humor in everyday life. I can't even give you an example of what I mean because this type of humor has no rules or limits, it just is.

I don't mean to sound so philosophical ... sorry about that ... All I'm saying is you won't be able to change this overnight. Look to the kids that get the whole class laughing and semi-copy what they do. It will be very hard at first, especially because most of "those funny kids" call out in class, which can be extremely hard for a shy person (old me, and you right now).

My posts have been long recently, wonder if they get read ;o
 
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Hah, well, I read it =P It helped too ^^

Hm, so keep 'copying' other people's jokes and let my sense of humour sort of develop naturally? I used to be pretty funny but then all those days spent on the computer sort turned my sense of humour into a geeky one =P And I know being funny is more of a natural thing, which sucks, but there's definately some improvement that can be made =D
 
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Furnezz said:
Hah, well, I read it =P It helped too ^^

Hm, so keep 'copying' other people's jokes and let my sense of humour sort of develop naturally? I used to be pretty funny but then all those days spent on the computer sort turned my sense of humour into a geeky one =P And I know being funny is more of a natural thing, which sucks, but there's definately some improvement that can be made =D
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I'm right there with you man .. the computer was my entire life from 8th grade until the end of 9th when I hated life. I said semi-copy for a reason, you don't want to seem like you can't think of anything on your own. The main thing is practice, you'll get there. If you practice for the rest of the school year, you will LAUGH OUT LOUD at your post in June (or whenever you get out) It just takes the effort; make the jokes because you find it funny, not because you want reactions from other people. Entertain yourself.

I guarantee it^^
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hey man you know what has really helped me out into becoming a funnier person? sitcoms! when u watch tv u should focus on only watching funny sitcoms like Seinfeld, that 70's show etc... I recommend watching a few Seinfeld episodes and watch how jerry is naturaly funny. He doesn't cuss, he doesn't yell, he doesn't do funny faces, he just makes fun of everyday occurrences. Try to copy what he does as much as you can. Believe me, watching sitcoms and comedies really does help your sense of humor.
 
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