"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Working Less + Spending Less = Living Less
- Thread starter bigneil
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
bigneil said:I have a new roommate who works with me so I figured we'd have similar lifestyles but I was wrong. After 2 months it's become obvious that his philosophy is simple: if he does very little and spends very little, he can work very little to afford his expenses.
Observations:
* He genuinely seems to believe that someday he'll find a woman who says "Oh my God! I want to spend the rest of my life in your unfurnished bedroom with the blinds pulled down too!"
* I think he might be a virgin at age 38.
* I get up 3 hours earlier (5am vs 8am), get to work 2.5 hours earlier (6am vs 8:30am), have a healthy dinner made from scratch by the time he gets home, and then he's too lazy to even help clean up the mess. He'll just sit there surrounded by dishes forever until I finally take them.
* Now I'm finding he's too cheap to even replenish the ingredients he consumes or beers he drinks. I get Angry Orchard, Micro brewed beer, and $20-$30 a bottle wine, and he buys generic 2% milk, Ocean Spray High Fructose Corn Syrup Artificially Flavored Sink Water. I buy organic, grass-fed, bone-in beef, he buys radishes and iceberg lettuce. I distill my own water, he drinks tap water.
* Meanwhile, when he got locked out of the apartment at 11:30pm on a weekend, in the middle of summer in a gated community, in an area with at least 5 great bars and restaurants that were open and within a mile, he was checked into the cheapest hotel by 11:45pm and demanded I reimburse him.
* It was an emergency for him not to get to bed by midnight on a Saturday.
* I drove a UHaul 800 miles and carried all my belongings except 2 items to the 3rd floor by myself. He left his stuff at his other apartment because he thought the UHaul was too expensive so he has hardly any furniture. Then he needed to take a 15 minute break between the 2 items I needed help with.
* I've worked every Saturday for 5 hours each of the past 10 weeks, taking home an extra 50 hours pay. He sleeps in on Saturday, never worked once, stays home all day, and doesn't take advantage of a chance to be paid for overtime.
* I bought a $2000 organic queen bed and he bought a $200 single bed with no real mattress or boxed spring. We have the same job.
* When I had an extra $100 ticket to see a concert he decided to stay home.
* Although I'm 7 years older, I've had about 5 dates in 10 weeks here, he's got 0 phone numbers and has never left the apartment except to go to work or the grocery store.
Summary. Ask yourself this: why would a woman want a man who has less income, less energy, lower quality input (diet) and lower quality output (no events, vacations or trips)? Don't be like my roommate. In fact, I'm somewhat concerned that living with a man like this will drag me down. I honestly wouldn't even tolerate a woman being so unproductive. What do I do? Kick his ass? Move out?
why are you living with another man at 45? that's what I want to know.
Pretty much nailed it.thatfeel said:Fatneil your self righteous ego stroking threads bore us all and dont contribute anything to this forum. Also, my fvcking face when "organic" bed. We're all very impressed that you're sleeping on a bed recycled from the manure of "grass-fed" cows; we get it dude, you're bought into the "organic" "all natural" marketing scheme, no one fvcking cares.
And besides why are you even posting anything at all about your roommate on a public forum? Have some integrity dude. It's not like you're shacked up with a criminal. Shouldn't you be living in your own mansion or something? You're always talking about how much money you waste on women.
You guys above who are even bothering to waste your time having a discussion with this guy, you want the REAL "summary" of this post?
OP Summary: "My self esteem has kicked the bucket and I'm lacking internal validation for my actions, so, I'm coming on here and belittling my roommate and using all of his perceived shortcomings as opportunities for me to boast about myself to random strangers on the internet".
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.