Work

[Yo'Mama]

This post has only a tangential link to women so I hope it's ok to post here.

I'm 34 now and am earning a sh*tload of money working for a big bank. The problem is I'm miserable doing it. I hate the working environment, I hate the politics, I hate the stress, I hate the fakeness of it (not making anything real), I hate the ass-kissing, the ladder climbing, the endless meetings, the tediousnesss of co-workers.... I could go on.

However I like the lifestyle. I have a cool apartment and money to play with. I don't have a wife or kids. Generally I enjoy my time outside of work very much, but I feel sick at the thought of going in each day.

I need to bring women into this somehow so I'll say that another thing I'm unhappy about is not having much time to game women except in club or bar settings on the weekend. I also get the feeling that there are many guys out there who work much less hard but end up getting laid a lot more. Frankly that is important to me.

Does anyone else find themselves in a similar situation? Financially very well off and successful with status but actually deriving no satisfaction from what they're doing and sick on a Sunday night at the thought of the week ahead?

I could go on like this for years I suppose (I have for 8 years so far) but I really think this isn't good. I would love to start my own business but I don't really have any ideas.

Anyway advice is welcome but really I just wanted to see if other people felt like this. I feel like a more successful and wealthier version of the guy in Office Space, having to put up with a variety of unbearably annoying characters and bureaucracies every working day of my life.

Then again maybe I should be thinking differently. Times are tough and maybe I should just consider myself lucky to have a well paying job?

 

[Sue Madre]

Try being unemployed and broke for 6 months living in your parents basement. Then maybe you can appreciate having a good job again.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Fair enough Sue Madre. I apologise if my post was insensitive to people in that situation.

 

[caporal]

I know people in ur situation... Many people may envy your job/lifestyle, i dont.
im sorry to say OP you sound miserable what good is the cash if you can't enjoy it?
Or how nice is having an expensive apartment where you only have time to sleep in it just to go back to your boring corporate slave job, I see it as a golden cage. I say fvck that, live your dreams and enjoy life and enjoy freedom!

 

[Yo'Mama]

Caporal yes I agree with you, that's why I made the post. I don't expect anybody to envy me.

I'm just not sure what to do about it.

 

[Yo'Mama]

My job is a boring corporate slave job and I hate it. The only thing that keeps me in it I think is seeing people with much worse jobs who get paid much less and get treated badly to boot.

If I could find a job that paid a quarter as much and I actually enjoyed, I would move in a second.

 

[Slickster]

Sounds like the kind of job that would suck your soul right out of you.

 

[Sue Madre]

Fair enough Sue Madre. I apologise if my post was insensitive to people in that situation.

you didn't offend me. So what's the real problem? You have a good job and nice apartment and still can't get laid?

 

[Yo'Mama]

No, as I said women were tangential to the post. I do get laid but would like to get laid more. That's not the main problem though.

The main problem is feeling sick at the thought of going into work every day. It is 'sucking the soul right out of me'.

 

[Sue Madre]

No, as I said women were tangential to the post. I do get laid but would like to get laid more. That's not the main problem though.

The main problem is feeling sick at the thought of going into work every day. It is 'sucking the soul right out of me'.

Then find a new job.

 

[PokerStar]

sometimes its not all about the money.

its about your health, your piece of mind.

dont waste anytime not enjoying the finer things in life.

 

[Harpe]

Since you're working for a big bank I'm assuming you're in finance?

Have you tried moving to a different division in your bank that might do something more interesting? Or even to a different company/bank/HF/VC firm altogether that does more interesting work, or where the work you do has more of an impact?

Can't imagine your only options are poor and happy or rich and miserable...

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Mama,
Well let me tell you I have worked from the most arduous to the cushiest jobs....Can I say that after a few months you get to detest all of them,believe me from man handling Land-Rovers out of Paddy Fields all day to working in a college 18 hours a week with only 32 weeks work a year is equally detestable...must say being retired is really good....being able to lie in your cot till ten 'O Clock is the greatest....So just hang in there Brother,I once worked with an irascible Pole....He had been in a Concentration Camp for two Years....He reckoned after six months he actually got used to it..So you can get used to your little Number too.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Thanks Harpe and Scaramouche.

 

[Heretolearn]

Yo mama - I may be projecting yet I feel in a similar situation to you. For me, the frustration/feeling comes from 'is this it?' Like office space, you trade your life for the cash.

Now I would love to have a calling/love a certain job. I have not found it yet, so I do my work. * I actually really like the work, some people/politics REALLY annoy me though.

 

[Zunder]

My job is a boring corporate slave job and I hate it. The only thing that keeps me in it I think is seeing people with much worse jobs who get paid much less and get treated badly to boot.

If I could find a job that paid a quarter as much and I actually enjoyed, I would move in a second.

"The courage you need to go on living your present life of frustration is far greater than the courage you need to make the decision to leave it. And when you see this you will leave it.
If everyone lived a life of fulfilment there would be no insurance companies. And that life is yours for the taking. For some incredible reason (incredible to those who have taken the jump), man teeters and jibs at the little hurdle which separates frustation from fulfilment.
I am speaking always of those who have the right to their freedom. There is, of course, that fortunate being, perfectly equipped for the herd life, who is truly gregarious by nature. Him I salute with respect and, what is more, with envy. He will not want to escape, What I have said is addressed to those who do".

~ Frank A. Wightman

 

[Three]

Good points, all. Yo'Mama - I feel your pain. I've been in one kind of a cubicle or another for more than 15 years now. After a year or two at each job, I grow to hate it with a passion. I don't think it's always a question of getting used to it, though. Some of us are just not at all suited to that sort of life.

I would suggest you read The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss. It was a real eye opener for me and described the kind of life I wanted to lead. It's basically about building a business that supports your lifestyle and frees you from the slavery of working for an employer. It's not about getting rich.

I'm not there yet, but that's my goal. Thinking out of the box and getting some fresh ideas will really help you get past this.

 

[Zunder]

Good points, all. Yo'Mama - I feel your pain. I've been in one kind of a cubicle or another for more than 15 years now. After a year or two at each job, I grow to hate it with a passion. I don't think it's always a question of getting used to it, though. Some of us are just not at all suited to that sort of life.

I would suggest you read The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss. It was a real eye opener for me and described the kind of life I wanted to lead. It's basically about building a business that supports your lifestyle and frees you from the slavery of working for an employer. It's not about getting rich.

I'm not there yet, but that's my goal. Thinking out of the box and getting some fresh ideas will really help you get past this.

Yeah mate, don't take this personally but whenever I hear "Tim Ferris" I feel like puking.

 

[zekko]

Well let me tell you I have worked from the most arduous to the cushiest jobs....Can I say that after a few months you get to detest all of them

I have to agree with Scaramouche here. No matter what you do, you're going to get sick of it after awhile. Even the Beatles got tired of being the Beatles. There's a reason they call it work. If you'd do it for free they wouldn't have to pay you.

You're a guy in your 30s, you have to be earning a living. You don't have to do what you're doing now, but I would have something lined up before you quit. At least have a better plan than "I would love to start my own business but I don't really have any ideas". Just up and quitting your job in this economy sounds practically suicidal. Unless you're planning some sort of radical lifestyle change like joining a commune or such.

If you haven't already, start planning your retirement NOW. The earlier the better. If you're careful with your money, there's a good chance you can retire at a decent age, while you still have your health and some life left in you. That way, even if you have to stay in the rat race awhile, at least there's a light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Thanks Zekko. I know that practically what you're saying makes sense. But the thought of doing this for another 20 years (or even 10 years) is massively depressing.

Maybe that's just reality and I have to deal with it.

Three, sorry to hear you're in a similar situation bro. I hope we can find a way out.