"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Work scenario - opportunity to step up and win?

Lion

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Hi, I work in an office environment.

Last week it was announced that one of my colleagues would be resigning. He says it is his time to move on to a new industry.

This is good and bad.

I have the opportunity to step up and take on more responsibility, and hopefully be rewarded...

BUT

I have been forwarned that my work load will increase, taking on at least half of the resigning collagues' work. He is a few notches up the rank and has been mentoring me.

Now I have only been with this co. for a few months and I'm already working an extra 0.5-1.5 hrs a day over my contracted time to make a good impression and get things done. This seems to be co. culture.

No mention of pay-rise or rewards yet and I have not asked.

I am confident that I am the best-value $ employee as everyone gets paid more than me and I do a good job, especially for a new person.


I don't want to end up doing long hours and I don't want to get the less-interesting admin work, but the odds are stacked. I think that asking for a pay rise before my next review (6mths) would not make the best impression.

I feel slightly dissapointed because I expected my colleagues to be of a higher standard in terms of professionalism, but up to now they have not inspired me or set strong examples as my previous employer did.

How can I go about this in a way which benefits me? More money and respect.

Hope some of you have been in this situation before and can offer advice.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lion

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Come on guys, how should I go about this to get promoted and rewarded? :up:

I don't want colleagues to take advantage of the fact I'm willing and new. I want to work hard but ensure I get the credit.

It is a small company btw.
 

ready123

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only a few months means nothing. but I'm curious

whats your line of work?
how many people in the company?
how many people in your group?
what is the company culture and group culture?
 

Desert Fox

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Give us more info. Tell us about social dynamics of your co.

Who is favored, who is a slacker, etc. stuff like that will help us better gauge. All of these are important factors as all these people are essentially your competitors.
 
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