"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hamurabimbi

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Recently divorced. After 10 plus years. When that news became public, a lot of the women at work suddenly became very interested. Although I’m older, girls regularly think I’m 20 years younger. I’m pretty attractive too. Pulled an 18 year old this year. I have three current prospects at work. All old enough to be my daughters. One is a black woman who often says very sexually aggressive things to me, but then will act indifferent. The next is a white woman, who shows a lot of sexual interest at times (I think when she’s ovulating), but I haven’t been able to push the relationship further. The third is a Latina. (Who has a bf). But she always always stands close to me. Tells me she misses me. All of them are fine with me touching them. I’m pretty sure I could land them. All are single moms. I’m not looking for an LTR, but the black and white one are. The company is pretty lenient on employees hooking up. I have opportunities outside work, but I truly like these ladies. Off course I’d like to bang them too. Is it worth the risk? How aggressive should I be? If I misjudged the situation, it would be fairly humiliating. Work is kind o a fishbowl, so it’s no secret I’m flirting with them. I feel like a newbie after being married for so long.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Just ask anyone of them to join you for drinks. Don't invite.

"Hey join me for some drinks this weekend at xx around xx time, it'll be fun" phrase it that way.

Wait for a reply;

1. If she says busy or even shows some reluctance, shrug it off, say it's cool and that you understand she's not the brave fun girl you thought she was. Smile and walk away. You get to keep frame.

2. She smiles and agrees, it's all good then.

Let us know.
 

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I wouldn't go out with woman from work, the sh!t can happen is not funny, even more on california, I would for the kicks of it complain about the harassement to HR but other then that meh
 

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If same dept/unit/floor dont go for it.. Dont under estimate girl at work, they can turn from lovely to being Evil behind your back can turn into massive smear campaign with bad repercussions for both of you.. The fish are easy to hook in the ponds. bad for your well being.

Im having most of them into me myself.. The risks just not worth it. But im currently entertain chicks from other floor very carefully.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Thanks for the advice. Sigh. Work hookups might be too risky. We just had our annual corporate sexual harassment class this week too. Seems a lot more fraught with peril than it was ten years ago.
 

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I should have sought advice earlier. I’m in pretty deep at this point. I started reducing my interactions, but it’s gotten them upset. Mostly confused and pouty at this point. Some guys at work (married, so no ulterior motives) also told me to avoid. A harsher world than 2003.
 

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Mine is a multi billion giant company not against co worker to have a relationship, they even allowed marriage and provide joint benefits.. The risks will still be there.
 

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In the #metoo era, do not entangle your self with work women. Its a nightmare.

Its simply lazy. You can pull at club, pub, bar, coffee shop, grocery store, etc.

Practice Mike pence rules. Make friends. Wheel theur friends outside the office. No show work events. If you must attend, 20min tops.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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DEEZEDBRAH

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Mine is a multi billion giant company not against co worker to have a relationship, they even allowed marriage and provide joint benefits.. The risks will still be there.
Its simply retarded in a workplace in a false accusations era. Women arent ****ing the janitor. Its always up. Her not getting a ring means false rapey accusations.
 

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It's too bad. I actually really like them. Not just 'cause they're young and sexy. They are very fun, enjoyable people.
 
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