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[seek&destroy]

Hi all.

Ok, I am really interested in this one cashier cutie at my work (I work in a grocery store), but I don't know how to get her attention. I changed my hairstyle recently and drastically, even my friends were surprised, and since then it seems to me as if she's been noticing me more. Right after I got it cut like this I went to work, and the look she gave me just made me feel so good all over. It felt as if she was checking me out, and after that she talked to me a few times too. Another one of my work buddies knows (as well as my best friend who also works with us) that I really like her and he's always teasing me about it, which I don't actually mind. My question is this...how should I try to get her to talk to me more?? My best friend is also throwing a party this saturday and I told him to invite her. How should I approach this 'pick-up'???

 

[Hitman10000]

Ask her to hang out with you - one on one - on casual terms, test the waters first.

 

[Serialized3]

Ahh, gaming the cashier chicks, the best part of working at a grocery store...

 

[slitherjef]

Ahh, gaming the cashier chicks, the best part of working at a grocery store...

I was going after one of the bakery girls

 

[Serialized3]

I was going after one of the bakery girls

Never trust bakery chicks, they're squirrely. Or 40 and married (and fat).

 

[seek&destroy]

haha...i used to have a crush on a bakery chick when i was 17...i know how immature they can be.

 

[seek&destroy]

oh and btw, TOOL rules! im going to see em june 24th in hamilton.

 

[slitherjef]

Never trust bakery chicks, they're squirrely. Or 40 and married (and fat).

Yeah, this chick is hot and popular. Think she is a player. Oh well, shes cool though - my "homegirl" now I guess

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

... My question is this...how should I try to get her to talk to me more?? ...

What have you said to her so far?

 

[slitherjef]

Ahh, gaming the cashier chicks, the best part of working at a grocery store...

The cashiers at my store are dog ugly old people. Well, one sorta cute shy girl. Since this little thing I had with the bakery girl (the hotmom), word got out and the bottom line is people talk to much, thats why I kind of stayed away from her at work.

So, Im just gonna keep it friendly with the co-workers, even the hot ones and just stick with trying to pick up customers Or at least practice on em

 

[lebRambo]

haha...i used to have a crush on a bakery chick when i was 17...i know how immature they can be.

Haha, Sadao is the guy to talk to about this

 

[tobby]

Somebody told me advice on this before. You have to PING people that you work with. If you come off too strong then it ruins your chances with anyone else that you may come across with at work and it also doesn't really help your work environment.

You need to get a friendly vibe going and stuff like that. Once you've gotten that then you can progress (Kino, teasing, jokes, and etc.)

If you see her being unreceptive to any of these things then you know where you stand and where she stands, but as you progress and move towards (I'd go with having lunch together, and not anything major like dinner/movie) you can figure out if she's interested in you and even if she's not, there's always good ways of recovering from a simple request like that. ("It's cool, I'll go with X instead) you see my message!


Note: If she does reject you at any point of you trying to move forward, then you have to continue to act towards her and everyone else as if you're not affected. Any change in behavior on your part may not resonate too well. Don't do the "ignoring" stuff off of being rejected.

 

[seek&destroy]

Update: My best buddy is having a BBQ/Party on Saturday night. I told him to invite her for me n he said he will. How should I approach gaming her if she shows up at the party?

 

[seek&destroy]

anyone???

 

[seek&destroy]

Ok, another update...

I changed my mind about it. I dont really want to game this chick the way I'd game another chick at a party...this is the kind of girl that I'd like to have for a girl friend, not a one night stand...so I think I'm just going to take it easy with her. Any suggestions? How should I approach her without coming on too strong? I've been known to come on too strong in the past.

 

[randomusername]

Somebody told me advice on this before. You have to PING people that you work with. If you come off too strong then it ruins your chances with anyone else that you may come across with at work and it also doesn't really help your work environment.

You need to get a friendly vibe going and stuff like that. Once you've gotten that then you can progress (Kino, teasing, jokes, and etc.)

If you see her being unreceptive to any of these things then you know where you stand and where she stands, but as you progress and move towards (I'd go with having lunch together, and not anything major like dinner/movie) you can figure out if she's interested in you and even if she's not, there's always good ways of recovering from a simple request like that. ("It's cool, I'll go with X instead) you see my message!


Note: If she does reject you at any point of you trying to move forward, then you have to continue to act towards her and everyone else as if you're not affected. Any change in behavior on your part may not resonate too well. Don't do the "ignoring" stuff off of being rejected.

i'm in this situation...i have the friendly vibe going on with a girl who just started......we'll see how this progresses....i've macked on the last two girls at work....i closed the first one but then she got fired the week after and got kind of weird...kept on pursuing after she got fired but got mixed signals and she lost interest....2nd one got canned before i could close.....re:L new girl... i just want to get in before she gets fired...hah. she left the door open today that she wanted to get a drink after work tonight ("i really need a drink tonight"), but i already had plans so i let her know that so she knows i'm the man.

 

[randomusername]

Ok, another update...

I changed my mind about it. I dont really want to game this chick the way I'd game another chick at a party...this is the kind of girl that I'd like to have for a girl friend, not a one night stand...so I think I'm just going to take it easy with her. Any suggestions? How should I approach her without coming on too strong? I've been known to come on too strong in the past.

have you even spoken to her at all yet? i'd do something bold, unrelated to her, at the party so you have something to talk about or that she notices you.....i dunno, jump in the pool with your clothes on, "accidentally" set your shirt on fire by the BBQ, who cares....something that will be memorable...get a reaction from her so you're not just that creepy guy that stares at her. if you don't talk to her at the party, then at least you have something to go on when you're at work next.

 

[seek&destroy]

I can't believe how much of a freaking wuss I am...she was sitting in the staffroom reading something yesterday and I came in for a drink. We were alone in there for good 2 minutes and I still couldn't work up the nerve to ask her out...how should I approach this?