"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Work fling...all sex, no kissing.

jester1x

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It's too late because you've already caught feelings for him. You'll never get what you want from this man and it won't end well for you. I just hope you don't waste years literally waiting for any real, normal relationship with this married man.

There is attraction and then there is reality. Ask yourself why a single, young, available women is probably curtailing a majority of her dating life to spend a few minutes alone with this man. There isn't much a single woman can do with a married man except give him sex when it's convenient for him. You can't go out in public together. It's too much of a risk. Anyways...

Also, don't think you are his one and only on the side. There are probably others out there.

I do wish you well though. But, remember the shoe could be on the other foot so to speak...if you ever get married.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jester1x said:
There is attraction and then there is reality. Ask yourself why a single, young, available women is probably curtailing a majority of her dating life to spend a few minutes alone with this man. There isn't much a single woman can do with a married man except give him sex when it's convenient for him. You can't go out in public together. It's too much of a risk. Anyways...
It's a story as old as time itself. 10 minutes of fleeting (perceived) alpha c@ck beats a lifetime with a dependable herb who's "there for her" every time. You go girl :rockon:

In a time when even whales look on at the civ building beta with visible disgust and are even encouraged by the greater society to do so, the cad is King. Mind you he can't be too much of a cad if he's married but nevertheless.

edit: Holy join date batman :eek: We got a celebrity in here.
 
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I think she probably has bad breath. We've all been with a girl or two with really bad breath.
 

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The only broads that you don't kiss are prostitutes. Maybe he thinks you are one.... or have some disease.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women always think that the cheating/affair partner they are F-ing is amazing in bed and they have some great physical/emotional/spiritual connection. Wrong! He's no different than some single guy. In reality, it's more the TABOO THRILL of the cheating sex that leads to the great orgasms and great feelings rather than the guy being some kind of sex god and/or your soulmate.

It's an illusion. It's one big fantasy that people get addicted to. Men can fall for this trap too and believe that their mistress is their soulmate or at least the greatest F ever lol.

Women can get a FWB anywhere, anytime. But having a guy that is taken gives bonus gina tingles. Then they backwards rationalize that there's something special about the guy when there isn't. I have no doubt that the guy in the OP's story is good looking, but it's the "cheating part" that's making the sex hotter, not some connection.
 

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Just go to any relationship forum, and theres usually a section for people to discuss their situation with being the other man or other woman. Ill never understand these people, especially as many of them expect their married lover to leave their spouse.

Its highly rare the married person ever gets a divorce, and it leaves me scratching my head at how gullible people can be. And at how selfish someone can be to interfere in someones marriage. What goes around comes around though.

I dont cheat, I dont tolerate cheaters, and I dont help people cheat. But if there was a chance I ever happened to hook up with a married chick, I definitely wouldnt expect her to be with me. And I wouldnt wanna be with her. Shed just play me like a cuckold as well.

People need to wise up.
 

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( . )( . ) said:
Men can separate sex and closeness very easily. I don't like to admit it because I've made countless posts here how much I detest lardassery but I have 1 fat chick in my rotation. For that weird fat fvck fhenomenon where sometimes you just get a weird urge to slay a porker. I know it's shameful.

I digress, what I'm trying to say is this chick is always trying to kiss me. She's mixing sex with closeness, where as I'm just wanting to watch the big ole diddies slap around, do my bolt,put my pants back on and forget about the shameful act until the fff sneaks up on me again.

You see what I'm saying? btw kissing is much ado about nothing for some men in general. I don't really see what all the fuss is about myself, even with chicks who I'm proud to show off at friends BBQ's.
No way..the illustrious t!tty man himself is fvcking a fat chick. I wonder if she's chubby fat or just plain fat
 
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