"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Work chick... think i've reached my peak

dmoney

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hey guys,

haven't been here in ages. i got a problem i that i hope i can get some vets input on (hopefully before 2morro afternoon cuz that when i work and i think she does too).

well heres the suitation. i got this girl at work that i'm interested in. i've been flirting and teasing here since i got hired. heard she liked me at some point but i never asked for her number because at first i wasn't too interest and plus i didnt know how to go about it. any ways more and more shes been getting more and more attractive to me... to the point that i want to bone this chick. i've never had any girlfriends but the girls at my work think that i do. i don't know if she still likes me or not but i feel that she still does cuz once in a while i can feel her stealing looks at me occasionally (we're both cashier and work in the same area). i think i've built enough attraction but i think that i'm starting to get stuck at a certain point with her (hence why i think i've peaked).

i feel like all i do is neg hit and use cnf comments on her. I tried to switch it up and be really nice to her (even gave her a compliment today) but i end up going back to neg hit and cnf without even knowing. i want to know how can i possible go about asking for her number and /or getting to have intercourse with her (don't kno if i want to date her or not).

shes a solid 7/10 when she gets all dolled up like today but normally a 6-6.5/10 cuz she normally doesnt get all dressed up for work too much.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maxtro

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I'm in a similar situation to you. I just got a new job and one girl just stands out form the rest. Today she dressed really sexy and was showing off tons of cleavage. Anyways I've only seen her at work for a couple of days and I've talked to her a little bit. I'm thinking about asking her for her number or maybe suggesting we go somewhere together if we get off around the same time.

You should do the same thing. Get her number or go somewhere to eat with her if you two get off at the same time.
 

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don't know about going out to eat together cuz our schedule thing is weird our manager won't let two people go out at the same time (but if it ever happens i'll try that).

yeah i've been working there for almost 2 months now (known her for a month or so). so how do i go about asking for the number. i've never done it before in america (the times i've tried i've either failed or gotten but they were from another country). how do i do it... lol i dont want to sound like i'm needy you know?

so how should behave 2morro and in the future (i think she is working 2morro). can you or someone else give me an idea of how i should be. you know should i be nice, or just maintain my cnf self and ask for the number? If you were me what would you be doing.

I just want an idea so i can implement them into what i do. not asking for dialogue or anything to difficult. hope you understand what i mean


i wont reply till 2morro gonna go sleep have to work 2morro

thanks in advance for the help
 

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Since I don't really know you or your work situation all I can say that you should do is just keep doing what you are doing, you don't want to become too nice. The next time you spend some time with her and it feels right just say something like, "Hey, we should get together when we are both off and do something." If she thinks that it's a good idea then ask for her number. Or if you work together and your shifts end at the same time then go get some food with her.
 

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*update* yeah i know its a bit late but dunno i feel like i've lost her. like not in the sense that i'm the friend zone but in the sense that i've given her too much confidence.

i asked her when are we gonna go on our date but i think she thought i was joking and so she gave me a joking answer (sarcastic "oh man" then "i'm working all this week")

think i've been neg hitting and using cnf on her too much that she think thats everything i say is a joke.kino is there i guess every once in a while whenever i do talk i give her a little tap on the arm. i think she is as nervous as i am its a bit awkward.

I hate when this happens because before i had no problem talking to her but now it seems that because i think that she has interest in me i'm starting to put her on a pedestal and getting nervous around her (liek wanting just us too to be there before i say anything gaming wise)

dunno if shes still interested i dont feel her taking looks at me like she used to while i work.
today i was calling her sweetie. like she askedme to do something i said "sure sweetie, anything for you" and she said "dmoney, loves me". i was just joking around but i think she really thinks i'm like head ove rheals with her (although i've been thinking about her alot but thats not something i want her to know)

need some help fast. don't really want to date this chick i just want to bang her. i just want to use her to tame my hormones which have been going nuts for months now.

shes working with me 2morro. hope i can get a reply before then. need some guidance on how to tame this chick and get her to go on a date or hang out, i can handle it from there i think (if not i'll just wing it whatever happens happens)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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