"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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word association... conversation escalation

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ok I don't read pickup books, cause, hey lets get real here a lot of this stuff is obvious when you really think about it. So I don't know if this or that book has it in it.

But a friend of mine was watching me in awww last night at the bar(bar with dance floor/club setting thurs fri and sat ev)

And his major problem with women is running out of things today, or doesn't know what to say to keep the conversation going.

I told him something i use often in that situation is what we can call word association and today we went out for coffee(friend and i). I was having some pumkpin bread thing, and I told him ok say if I was on a date right now, and ran into this problem(which rarely happens to me) I would mention how good the cake is and use this to escalate a conversation about pumpkins = Halloween, and use that as a starting point to talk about Halloween, what we wore this year previous years, and then talk about holidays, which could lead to conversations about pretty much anything.

Any material on this or do I have to write it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Borknagar said:
ok I don't read pickup books, cause, hey lets get real here a lot of this stuff is obvious when you really think about it. So I don't know if this or that book has it in it.

But a friend of mine was watching me in awww last night at the bar(bar with dance floor/club setting thurs fri and sat ev)

And his major problem with women is running out of things today, or doesn't know what to say to keep the conversation going.

I told him something i use often in that situation is what we can call word association and today we went out for coffee(friend and i). I was having some pumkpin bread thing, and I told him ok say if I was on a date right now, and ran into this problem(which rarely happens to me) I would mention how good the cake is and use this to escalate a conversation about pumpkins = Halloween, and use that as a starting point to talk about Halloween, what we wore this year previous years, and then talk about holidays, which could lead to conversations about pretty much anything.

Any material on this or do I have to write it?
yes, that is good, but only as a means of getting her to talk more. I think it's best if they're the ones talking most of the times, and your the one chiming in with wise-ass comments and anecdotes about the topic THAT SHE BROUGHT UP.

Women love to talk about themselves and things that interest them; when the conversation is about something she wants to talk about, and your being the funny guy around that, your in the right place.
 

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EXACTLY! Very much true, I keep mine to a minimum. Just a friend asked me and I told him this idea, and it works, I love it!

He was having a problem with a girl last night he went up to. And I told him I'll approach, just to see what happens, so I did, and she had a bf, but that didn't stop her from being up close and personal :) but was careful cause her boyfriend was inside! no make out, or even number but she was on me pretty good though for a good five minutes.
 
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Also, make sure that whatever you DO say, your passionate about it and 100% behind it, not apologetic at all.

Girls have this sixth sense x-ray voodoo **** that they see the tone behind your message, and it doesn't really matter at all what you say. So, if your tone is wise-ass, that's all you gotta do, don't try too hard besides that and the cards will fall into place.
 

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yeah exactly, but I am kinda a natural in a lot of ways myself, hence why I don't really study it. In fact i accidentally "game" sometimes, now this chick who was just a friend(by my intentions) wants me, haha she is kinda cute though
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Oh and it's even worse when I end up with girls I can't and won't be after not that their hot, but its nuts when you got teenies after ya, 18 ok cool, but several 16 year olds have been interest :( and I am ****ing 31 lmao
 
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