Wondering if I did the right thing.

[Chickfight]

So about the religious girl I had a long distance thing with that I mentioned in an earlier thread, lets call her M. Well, not much changed, but I busted out with a move I'm not too sure of. Basically, I removed her from facebook and visibly entered an "official" relationship with a girl I've been seeing over here. Thing is, I still want M the most. So in a way I just used this other girl as a jealousy tool (I sure as hell wouldn't put the relationship on facebook otherwise). I knew M would find out about it one way or the other and a couple of days later her sisters (who go to college here in America) removed me from facebook.

I'm not sure if she was still interested at that point or not, cause she put up a bunch of statuses that indicated she was still thinking about me, but that may also be about a different guy she was with before me cause he also lives in a different country.

I'm going back to the country she's in in a week and I'm staying for a month and I would love to see her and pick up where we left off, but I'm not sure how to play it at this moment. Things seem really broken and I contributed to that.

I'm thinking I'll wait for a week or so after I get there, then call her and talk to her normally to feel out the situation. Anyway, I could really use some advice.

Ps. Yes I know I'm a manipulative *******.

 

[Warrior74]

When I've had the occasion to watch the average chic flick, I notice one thing that usually happens. The chic tries to manipulate the guy, and it blows up in her face. Usually since its a hollywood movie, she gets forgiven and all turns out well in the end. Guess what character you are in this movie. The chic. Guess what else? This isn't hollywood. And from the results, it looks like it blew up in your face.

I honestly have no advice for you. But I do have some questions.

Will you change your status before you leave?
What will you say to her about your status/her deletion?
Will you tell her the truth?
Do you have the stones to lie directly to her with a straight face?
What exactly do you want from this girl?

 

[Chickfight]

Thanks, that was completely unhelpful. From the looks of things, I don't know what her position is right now and neither do you. I'm trying to figure out how to play it now. I'm not looking for forgiveness, I'm just wondering if I did the right thing from an increasing attraction standpoint. I'm not here for a moral lesson from random strangers.
As for your questions.

-I'm not changing my status until I break up with her, which will be whenever I feel like it. Besides, this stunt isn't going to hold much water if I break up with her after a week.

-If it comes up, I'll tell her I didn't want anybody to feel weird or awkward once one of us moved on and it's only facebook anyway.

-What do you mean tell her the truth? That I started a relationship with some girl I'm not that interested in just to make her jealous? In that case, no.

-Yes, I do. If you think the things we do here to attract women are completely honest, you're in the wrong place.

-What does anybody want from a girl they're interested in? I don't know, I want to hang out in an intimate setting and have fun and see where it goes.

 

[Chickfight]

*bump*
sorry but I could really use some input on this.

 

[Warrior74]

Hey man. I wasn't trying to be harsh or unhelpful. It's just sorta of a vauge question innit? At least I know now where your head is at the game. People can't provide blanket advice for vauge situations with no idea of what sort of person you are and what you are capable of. If you came back with some "But I luuuuurv her" type responses, it would be obvious that you were not worth wasting time on.


It sounds to me like you've got your head on straight. I say just game on. Contact her and do what you usually do. Someone else maybe able to give you more detail advice. But I think you got a good grip on the situation as it stands.