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women's sexual desire is fickle

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When I was in my LTR, if there's one thing I learned, it's how "fickle" women's sexual desire is.

Let's say that in my three LTRs, this was a constant.
In fact, women could go a year with low desire, and therefore had fewer options, but a year with very high desire, and those were also the years when the relationship was most on the rocks.

I noticed that there can't be just hormonal explanations (menstrual cycle), but also many external factors, such as hanging out with friends who talk more or less about sex, or the stage in her life, whether she's going to the gym and making herself beautiful and taking care of herself, or whether she's focusing more on studying and
therefore doesn't take care of herself and is stressed.

For us men, it's very different, and if there's one thing that made me most regret being free, being single, it's precisely the fact of having to indulge "her desire," rather than "the shared desire" within
the relationship.

You might be Leonardo Di Caprio, but after the adjustment period, I can say that we all normalize our sexual desire. So I'm referring more to the period that comes afterward, the more sincere one, where there are more commitments and things to do.

In fact, having to indulge her desire makes me nervous and anxious, but I'm sure many people here use it to their advantage.
I think that when she's stressed and lacks desire, they would simply walk away and do other things, while when she's all lustful and almost ninfomaniacal, then they get busy and destroy her as she wants.

Women are like cats after all, right?

But as a man, who instead desires stability in life, how do you manage all this without it generating anxiety in yourself, creating cracks in your stoicism, or in your philosophy of life?

It's like indulging a child who always throws tantrums, whether she wants to or not.
It's always on her side.

I'd like to understand how you experience it, and if it's a normal occurrence for all LTRs, and how you've experienced it, and if you've noticed anything different, We'd love to know more about it.
 

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