"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Women's Intuition

evolvingnerd

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holy crap
now i'm not sure whatjust happened
but i was just speaking to this chick right
and i went to find something she said i lost, kinda to spite her
and then she said "oh i helped you find something you lost, im so good" and so i said where would i be without you
that was definitley eintended as sarcastic
now i like this chick, well kinda anyway right, she's pretty dull witted but i always end up laughing at some stage...
so she replies "in the palm of a woman's hand"
now i don't get this, and said i didn't
and she said some crap, and then women's intuition popped up!!
and then she went into a whole random string of ****e
and then i tried to joke some stuff off, and said "my head's spinning" and she replies that's not the only thing spinning...ur sense of direction..... ur identity.. multiple misconceptions

wtf is all this about?!?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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to me it semes like she see's you as a walk over, she probably has control over you, im assuming this by what she said. I do not no the real situation of how you are acting, but i think you should be your own person, draw the line her make sure she knows who is boss, because if she is boss it is a real turn off for her. You got to have her under control rather thne her haivng you under control. To do this, learn how to say no when its approrpriate, do not just do what she wants you to do, you have to show the way, an important part to this is to be more confident in yourself and when you are with her give her a lto of attention when you give her any, and oftne no attention, make it seem liek you are busy and have a lot of other girls you could be with, so rtaher then her knowing she can always be with you, bring the ball back in to your court, so she values time with you more and knows your are not always avalible.
 

evolvingnerd

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sound advice
but i'm not romantically interested in her
however she could be good practice for my DJ skills
so when i'm with her, i should pay attention and all, otherwise ignore her?
the problem is though i'm always on msn messenger, well on a lot anyway
so whenever she signs in, chances are i will be there
so what, this makes me look easily accessible?
 

DJ Alejandro

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i dont get it. but the impression im getting is that you're a puppet and she's holding onto your strings.
 

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she's pretty dull witted but i always end up laughing
i'm always on msn messenger
i have the impression you spend too much spend time with your computer (how did i got that ... well from a guy whose name is evolvingNERD) and that she is a normal girl with normal social skills, who knows a few jokes and knows how people react.
maybe you should consider socializing and learn a bit about reading body language...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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maybe you act very fake around her, and her intuition sense that. thats probably why she brought up direction, identity, and misconception. dont try to put on an act, cuz anyone can tell right away immediately
 

evolvingnerd

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i do'nt believe i act fake
but then again i'm not sure about myself
i don't talk to many females, perhaps i am coming off as fake
how can i change this?
 
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