You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That's kinda what I'm thinking ... I wondered how men were able to stand the smell before 21 century because women rarely took showers ! I'm sure the smell must have smelled worseLolJoeMarron said:A damn shame. This is the 21st century. Every woman should have that sh!t under control
That's interesting. In my experience I find that the smell goes from meh to not too bad to acceptable the longer I've been with the chick, same with taste. You could call it an acquired scent so to speak.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
:crackup:Atom Smasher said:What's with all this "stinkin' thinkin'?
I'm working on a hand-held stank detector, but so far my more "fragrant" test subjects have been melting the solder joints.
This could be built into cell phones, "Let me just check my messages, babe..."Atom Smasher said:What's with all this "stinkin' thinkin'?
I'm working on a hand-held stank detector, but so far my more "fragrant" test subjects have been melting the solder joints.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Good advice but it seems most men (me included) would rather run out the door fast screaming down the street while waving arms frantically before facing the uncomfortable subject of telling her to her face her cooter stinks.G_Govan said:Most women who have smelly vaginas aren't usually lacking in hygiene. They simply don't know how to properly clean down there.
The vag isn't supposed to be washed with soap or anything that screws with the ph balance. The body has its own cleaning mechanism and if left to do its thing can provide a nice, natural smell. Soaking in warm water with some very mild scrubbing is all that's required.
When it reeks to high heaven that means there's an overgrowth of bacteria that shouldn't be thriving in such a way.
If you feel like giving them a chance see if you can have a conversation about their cleaning methods. If they're open minded you may be able to reverse the condition and have a good time at a later date.