Women with messy homes

[EverSure75]

A plate I've been seeing has a really messy apartment. The first two times I was over at her place and made out there were just a lot of clothes on the floor in her bedroom. Clutter and stuff in the living room.
The good sex had me overlooking it. I know my place can be untidy when I'm busy.

My most recent visit the living room was tidy. The bedroom was tidier but her kitchen had tons of dirty dishes andbibeven saw a trail of ants leading from the living room headed to the kitchen.

We all can allow our places to get untidy but when you're expecting a visitor I'd think you'd make an effort.

Of note, her bathroom was pristine.

What do you make of this? Am I being too much to have an issue with this?

 

[Vivacity]

Being clean can only be positive and can't be negative.

I agree with you.....when I am expecting a person/group of people to visit my home, I will spend an additional time and make an additional effort to keep all those places in my home (bedroom, bathroom, kitchen), my guests might possibly reach to, clean and tidy.

I am a clean guy and take care of myself, and I only date clean girls and girls who take care of themselves.

Your plate is probably an untidy person, and probably does not care about and does not pay attention to tidiness. If you are a tidy person, your concern is not unreasonable.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Don't let her live in your place, in case the relationship evolves towards that. Just don't. Keine problem otherwise...just keep the plate spinning.

 

[EverSure75]

Thanks guys.

 

[logicallefty]

She is extremely lazy and/or her interest level isn't as high as it could be and thus you weren't worth cleaning for. It's likely the former. Dirty dishes are the worst. They say a dirty kitchen sink has more germs than a toilet. I know few women who live alone and keep a clean place maybe a couple but the rest are slobs. And the slobs always laugh and make a joke about not cleaning like its the new cool now. Disgusting.

 

[El Payaso]

That's how most western women are these days. What little homemaking skills they have consists of Netflix marathons and Instagram whoring. Pathetic really.

 

[Konada]

An environment under the direct influence of a person reflects the level of relationship one has with himself. Take a good observation and see how balanced individuals coincidentally have cleaner, more organized environments than the average human being.

 

[Atom Smasher]

The outer environment is a reflection of a woman's inner core. A normally adjusted woman will ALWAYS, without fail, keep the "nest" tidy and organized. This is hard-wiring. Inner chaos and turmoil will supersede the wiring and cause her to manifest her inner chaos by how she keeps her environment.

A sloppy woman is usually very maladjusted deep within and therefore a sloppy "nest" is a huge yellow flag. I won't say a red flag, but a yellow definitely. Use caution.

The principle applies to men more loosely as men are hard-wired for functionality and practicality. We can live just fine in a muddy foxhole for extended periods because we are wired to be hunters and warriors. Still, the older one gets the more his environment reflects his inner condition. A man of my age can't get away with a sloppy environment like a 20 year old can.

As for women, when I see she keeps a sloppy household I lose all attraction for her.

OP, her bathroom was pristine because that is the one room she cleaned up for your visit. She didn't have it in her to do the rest. Take it from me, I have experience with slobs and I've learned what makes them tick.

 

[kronreiff]

In my experience, most women are slobs. Ever see the inside of most womens cars? Disgusting just like their caves!

 

[EverSure75]

Thanks for all the replies.
I'll definitely be proceeding with caution with this one.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think this is a good example of a legitimate double-standard regarding gender and housecleaning. My house is a wreck. I stopped caring after my last live-in gf moved out. I still occasionally see her re-post an old pic on facebook from when she lived here, and I'll think damn this place used to be clean. My living room is my tool shed. Girls have never seemed to mind. One younger one even seemed impressed. "Wow, your place is so....masculine," she said. It must have been the chainsaw.

The last girl I dated with a messy house would have made for a miserable cohabitation. She's an alpha female. That's why we never clicked that well.