Women With Kids Discussion

[vitor]

Met a real beautiful HB9 recently. We had drinks and she is calling and texting me all the time. She has a 7 year old daughter. She is off for the summer because she teaches. My question is when does the child usally get involved, and what kind dating can I expect as in. Could she leave her child on a friday and come over go out and spend the night. Is it more or less 1 date during the week, and one on the weekend.

ANy advice is appreciated

 

[joekerr31]

when does the child get involved? at 7 i think the child is too young to join you guys for drinks.

as for when do you start to become the surrogate daddy? all depends.

good mothers will wait at least a few months before even introducing you guys.

mothers who are desperate for a daddy will probably introduce you within a couple of weeks.

as for her schedule, expect to get maybe 2 nights out of the week with her (thats if shes really in to you).

if her ex gets the kid on the weekend then you can bang her all weekend long.

but you know, i'll say it again, women with kids is a bad bad idea. its no big deal in the beginning, because she'll go the extra mile to make sure you stick around. but within 6 months you'll find yourself in a ready made family.

most guys at least get a few years before their woman turns in to a boring housewife. you'll get about 6 months.

 

[jophil28]

A teacher ! Off for the summer vac? Lots of time on her hands and nobody to talk to ? You MIGHT have fun with this schoolmarm if you go in with some knowledge about women teachers -.
I have had three teachers in my life . All of them tried to 'lecture' me about my 'bad boy' attitude. They seem to NEED to talk down to folk -like I was a naughty child and she was gonna put me right. These women have a self righteousness about them that emerges when you and she have your first drama. Teachers are very eager to date manly men because they work with academic males and a lot of women. Thet are literally starved for dating opportunities.
However, be aware that if you date you into a relationship then you will be put on the back burner at the beginner of term.

 

[steve76]

single mothers

I already posted my experience with a single mother with 3 kids under the topic: "Met a woman with 3 kids" earlier on this board. I'm currently still sleeping with the woman I'm with but I can sense her starting to fall in love with me because she calls or texts me at least twice a day. I may just end the relationship soon before I get in too deep and as another poster said, I wouldn't want to be responsible for anything happening to the main person in her kids' lives.
Prior to meeting that woman, I had a 1 kid cutoff rule meaning that I would date a woman with 1 kid but not more than that because should the relationship evolve, I would also like to have a kid or 2 of my own and I would like to have a family with 2 kids someday. Of course things can change if you happen to develop feelings for someone with more than 1 kid but in general, I think that getting involved in a relationship with one of these women is asking for trouble. Especially if an ex-bf or ex husband is still in the picture to visit the kids or whatever. Single mothers are good for casual sex but you're asking for trouble for the most part with anything more than that.

 

[STR8UP]

most guys at least get a few years before their woman turns in to a boring housewife. you'll get about 6 months.

With my one and only single mommy experiment I got about two weeks.

Of course, it didn't help that she was also certifiably insane :crazy:

i only dated this one for six weeks??? maybe. I think she introduced me to the parents and the kid about two weeks in. No flaming, please. Those were the AFC days, and that was a LOOOOOOONG time ago.

 

[penkitten]

i used to be a single mother with three kids and my kids didn't go on dates with me, but i also came home every night and was with my kids the next morning to make breakfast.
the whole thing is about how responsible they are as mothers.

 

[steve76]

Did you find that a lot of men were turned off when they found out that you had kids? It sounds like you're married now.

 

[MatureDJ]

Interesting. I just heard offhand about some guy that picked up on a woman that had - get this - 7 KIDS! He said that it was just too much baggage.

 

[Latinoman]

Nothing wrong with dating women with children as long as you understand the consequences and responsibilities.

Personally...I won't get in a serious relationship with one. Of course, I'm 39 and still have options. As I get older those options will shrink. (Note: I've sex with plenty of them...but I was under zero risk to falling for one).

 

[wayword]

i used to be a single mother with three kids and my kids didn't go on dates with me, but i also came home every night and was with my kids the next morning to make breakfast.
the whole thing is about how responsible they are as mothers.

Wow, no offense but...a single mom with 3 basturds and horpes...still gets dates in this country??! Amazing what feminism will do to a country! DAYM!

Let's face it - sparky000 and Last Man Standing are RIGHT!!! :crazy:

 

[joekerr31]

all things in life, i think, come down to perceived risk and reward.

the reality is i think some guys like women with kids, because theres an inherent vulnerability there (as much as such women would deny that adamantly). the man knows theres a bit of a 'hero' complex associated with his status in the relationship - because lets face it guys, no sane man with valid options would choose to a complex situation like a single mother with kids - its not just the mother and kids, its the ex husband also.

the whole thing is messy.

i can understand the brady bunch thing. but i dont understand the single guy getting in to these scenarios.

its kind of the equivalent of having 50 grand in the bank and marrying some chic with 50 grand of debt.

the only rationale i can think of behind this is that these guys dont realize they have options. that they can go out there and land single chics.

while single mothers arent hos, they are 'damsels in distress' (once again, i know they will adamantly refute this) - and some AFCs love those scenarios where the only heroic thing they have to do to be seen as a hero is to accept that shes got kids.

kind of wacked if you ask me.