"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Women who you are most attracted to are usually most attracted to you as well

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A while ago someone posted a quote from Gunwitch that goes, "Women who you are most attracted to are usually most attracted to you as well. This may seem counter intuitive and I won’t get in to evolutionary psychology here, but really the women you find absolutely "MUST HAVE" tend to wind up seeing you as more attractive than other women also."


a psychologist told me this.

is this true??

post your comments.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I don't think this applies to supper models (generic good looks), otherwise Megan Gale would find me irresistible.

But I'm sure it applies to the girl who is only a 5 or 6, but in your eyes shes a 10, there is just something about her.

May be because your body recognizes a genetic match or the chick can sence your genuine attraction and this causes attraction. I don't know.
 

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I am really attracted to Giselle..but for some odd reason she never calls me! Call me Giselle!
 

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persistent exaction said:
Call me Giselle!


Okay........................ Hello, Giselle.


Cheers!
 

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I can buy that. I have a friend who was with a girl for a while who wasn't anything special in the looks or body department, but because she wanted him so badly and showed him with lots and lots of wild sex he stayed with her for quite a while. He always said the hottest thing about her was the fact that she was so hot for him. Its an ego thing, I guess.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think, and Gunwitch says too, that attraction is partly genetic, i.e. people with similar genetics are attracted to each other.
 

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Technical1 said:
I think, and Gunwitch says too, that attraction is partly genetic, i.e. people with similar genetics are attracted to each other.
Scientifically speaking no, nature designed us to be unnattracted to people with genes too similar, thats why the thought of inbreeding is sickening to most people.
 

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both of you are wrong. inbreeding is wrong is in scientific point of view, a new thing. when the world was less populated, it was nothing for a woman to sleep with every member of the tribe. you had no right to be picky.

with population and options comes higher standards. now it's no longer required for us to sleepw tih close relaitives to produce offspring.

Read the story of civilization for more clairifcation.
 

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Python said:
Scientifically speaking no, nature designed us to be unnattracted to people with genes too similar, thats why the thought of inbreeding is sickening to most people.
Nature didnt design this. Society did. This is why its called a taboo.
Im saying this because, except for humans, inbreeding is quite natural in the animal kingdom.
 

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n00bPimp said:
Nature didnt design this. Society did. This is why its called a taboo.
Im saying this because, except for humans, inbreeding is quite natural in the animal kingdom.
False.

Nature and survival favors the heterozygous, inbreeding favors the homozygous.

When you inbreed, theres a chance that "lethal" genes become homozygous in the child, and that results in instant death. THere are also those problems that we've all heard about.... polydactyly (6 deformed fingers). I find myself attracted to girls who look much different than me.



And to the general thread idea......No.

Those above average girls (HB7) who I find irresistable (like an HB10) find me little more than just "cute."
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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That's actually not true, there are natural reasons to avoid inbreeding, and many examples from the animal kingdom showing similar tendencies.
 

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Very true.

Assuming no biological or social repellants (extremely overweight, underweight, homeless, smelling bad), We tend to match up facially with our biological 10's very well at a first sight visual level. Their facial structure indicates genes that we lack and, thus, find very attractive. They tend to see us as more attractive than other guys, in general.

At worst, your biological 10 will see you as an 8 or 7 if she has found a certain social niche of guys to be extremely attractive to her, like guys with muscles, a certain dress style, or wealthy men.
 

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ok, this is interesting...

so - i'm a little different than most guys on here... i mess with mostly girls who are in the 6.5-8 range (every one in a while getting someone over that range, and sometimes getting a girl under that range (if she has a nice body of course))... but i seem to have some kind of sexual sixth sense.

in bed - i love women who are easy to please, can have multiple orgasms, and who are VERY reactive...

somehow - i can kindda tell if a girls going to be like this without even asking her (although i will, just to get the conversation on sex). so if you put me in a room with a 6.5 and an 8. and both are showing SOIs, and my senses are picking up that i'll have more sexual fun with the 6.5 - that's who i'll go after.

to the guys who seem to know - is this possibly because i'm picking up some kind of chemical from them telling me that we're similar in bed?
 

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I don't understand how this got to inbreeding lol but I do think that the op statement is generally true.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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wolf116 said:
I don't think this applies to supper models (generic good looks), otherwise Megan Gale would find me irresistible.

But I'm sure it applies to the girl who is only a 5 or 6, but in your eyes shes a 10, there is just something about her.

May be because your body recognizes a genetic match or the chick can sence your genuine attraction and this causes attraction. I don't know.
I think some of this is the case, or something similar. I cant say exactly what it is, but for instance, in my case right now, I am attracted to this woman who is around a 5 or 6, but in my eyes, she's a 10. There is just something about her. The way she laughs, talks, her jokes, her rude comments, her evil eye she gives, and everything about her just does it for me. I guess its like a whole package that I look for. Or at least for the most part.

It's this comfortable feeling I get around her. She was a little sick last week and she was like...my nose is peeling, and my nose is snotty, see? And she was trying to show me, and most women wouldn't do that, and most guys would be like..UNATTRACTIVE. I however, just didnt care, and neither did she. It's like she was comfortable doing that in front of me. I was like... nice story, and then she kind of laughed through her mouth cause her nose was stuffed up.

And to me, she's not the most beautiful woman i've seen by far, but she is in my eyes in that sense of "something about her" I cant explain it.

It's this connection or vibe I get. I could find 3 girls with a better looking ass, a little prettier complexion, but then i'm like a magnet and want to go to the other one instead.

I mean if she really asked, why do you like me, i'd have to explain the above, cause it's more than looks by far.

And I think this happens a lot vice versa. You may not be Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt, but a woman finds all of these things and then there is this "something about you" she really likes.
 

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I agree with this. Pretty much any girl I have been really really, interested in I have gotten. Or I have found out that they liked me at one point, but I fvcked it up. Even, those 2 year long crushes from middle school. I go back and talk to those girls now (in a friendly manner, not so much trying to pick them up..) and they usually tell me they had the hugest crush on me back in the day. It kind of makes you wonder and think a lot, a lot of WHAT IFs? That's why I feel no shame in taking chances, and getting rejected. Atleast there's no what ifs.
 

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backbreaker said:
now it's no longer required for us to sleepw tih close relaitives to produce offspring.
Sure it is. How else are we going to reduce the global population?
 

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If people are attrtacted to 5s, and they're happy with that. Then why shoot them down?
 

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People with DIFFERENT genes are attracted to one another.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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