"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women who wear sunglasses.

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It ALWAYS happens to me... I was on the train today and saw some cute chick, so anyway we had our glances going checking eatchother out, AND SHE PUTS ON HER DARK GLASSES, while on the train. So she faces me and it looks like shes looking at me behind the glasses, but i can't tell. And when i look at her with her glasses on i feel like a stalker cause i can tell she sees when i look at her but not me when she checks me out. So anyway when i look at her, i feel she thinks somethings up. I hate it when people wear dark sunglasses so you can't see their eyes. Do any of you dudes get annoyed by this aswell ?:mad:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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never happened 2 me yet, try something funny in approaching her like go up and ask her nicely "were you checking me out?" You might get a smile out of her
 

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sunglasses are fun, dont get mad cause u a desperate fool, get mad cause u aint wearing a pair urself, and u not cool like er.
 

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Hmm... I can remember dancing with a girl that kept on putting on her sunglasses.
People use it to cover up what they're really looking at. It adds confidence to a person. I remember taking her sunglasses off three times, before she finally realised I really didn't like those sunglasses. It's annoying if you can't have eyecontact with a girl you like.
You could have approached her and talked to her about her cool sunglasses, so she'd take them off to look at them herself. Then tell her you don't like them, because you can't have eyecontact with a person with sunglasses... That would certainly work ;)
 

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Originally posted by I-am-someone
Hmm... I can remember dancing with a girl that kept on putting on her sunglasses.
People use it to cover up what they're really looking at. It adds confidence to a person. I remember taking her sunglasses off three times, before she finally realised I really didn't like those sunglasses. It's annoying if you can't have eyecontact with a girl you like.
You could have approached her and talked to her about her cool sunglasses, so she'd take them off to look at them herself. Then tell her you don't like them, because you can't have eyecontact with a person with sunglasses... That would certainly work ;)
Great post, and great advice. TA
As for Blue, you sir are an idiot...
 

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Originally posted by jiza101
I know she was checking me out, its just i couldnt look at her for to long cause i couldn't see her eyes behind her glasses.
Follow you gut! YOu say you knew she was checking you out even though you couldnt make eye contact. And if you really felt that more then likely it was so. So you didnt need any eye contact, that was your instincts and your logic fighting.

If she wasnt checking you out their is no universal law that states you have to make eye contact to approach. YOu can approach anyone you want. YOu let Fear jump on our back and beat the living day lights out of you. Stop listen to fear/thoughts-follow what you "feel". Your energy was connecting with her so much that despite what else happening to you to day you had to come and vent about this because you soul is mad at you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by jiza101
It ALWAYS happens to me... I was on the train today and saw some cute chick, so anyway we had our glances going checking eatchother out, AND SHE PUTS ON HER DARK GLASSES, while on the train. :
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THERE is your opener, WHY didnt you use it???? as many times as we kill our selves to think of SOMTHING to fvckin say you HAD IT


Dont let this happen again
 

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Originally posted by Royal Elite
Follow you gut! YOu say you knew she was checking you out even though you couldnt make eye contact. And if you really felt that more then likely it was so. So you didnt need any eye contact, that was your instincts and your logic fighting.

If she wasnt checking you out their is no universal law that states you have to make eye contact to approach. YOu can approach anyone you want. YOu let Fear jump on our back and beat the living day lights out of you. Stop listen to fear/thoughts-follow what you "feel". Your energy was connecting with her so much that despite what else happening to you to day you had to come and vent about this because you soul is mad at you.
True, although the situation sucked.. As soon as we had our thing going on like 20 year 8 school kids jump on the train and stand infront of her. :/
 

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Originally posted by jiza101
Great post, and great advice. TA
As for Blue, you sir are an idiot...
yar, im an idiot cause i told a desperate fool what he is,
seriously jizza, dont get mad cause u were in teh same situation and u were also too wuss to talk to a woman.
 

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I live in the desert, everybody where's sunglasses. This shouldn't be a deterent. If a girl flips her shades after making eye contact with you don't give up. Chances are if she's still got her head in a similar position to the one she was looking at you in she's still looking at you.

When this happens to me I'll look a little less at first then I'll throw a decent length look and end it with a smirk or slight smile. Sometimes they'll smile back but alot fo the time they'll try to front like the've got a stronger game then me. Either way I know I can close and I'll pick a tactic to get digets.
 

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Originally posted by BLUEox117
yar, im an idiot cause i told a desperate fool what he is,
seriously jizza, dont get mad cause u were in teh same situation and u were also too wuss to talk to a woman.
Mind speaking english retard?:rolleyes:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Most women who wear sunglasses especially indoors are doing it because they don't want to be bothered by anyone unless they themselves go out of their way. Forget the sun for a moment, why would a chick who is looking for a date would put something on to hide her eyes and to cover the one feature that makes her approachable?!

You cannot sense what mood she is in when she hides behind the shades. It is most likely she did it to be left alone. But if you feel the urge to try then go for it.
 
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