"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Women who want Married Men ? Why?

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Why is it some females married or not like married men? I have a new female staff at work. Shes cute petite and early 40 s. No wedding ring and she’s giving me that vibe.
She would be tempting to take down. But females, work , FWB can be sticky. Going to feel this out.
Anybody here have this happen ??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Partly pre-selection. But more importantly, an attractive man is an attractive man. He's not going to stop being that just because there is a ring on his finger. In work situations, where people end up in close quarters, she is going to notice. Once the hormones start racing, all the morals and complications get pushed to the back (if she would even be worried about that in the first place).
 

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Makes sense for sure. I've always avoided the work females-it's been tough at times. Just don't want the possible drama that may come up with the BS. I've had a few chances and never partook. This one really gets my juices going.
Who know-I may be way off too.
 

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Partly pre-selection. But more importantly, an attractive man is an attractive man. He's not going to stop being that just because there is a ring on his finger. In work situations, where people end up in close quarters, she is going to notice. Once the hormones start racing, all the morals and complications get pushed to the back (if she would even be worried about that in the first place).
I also think people want what they cant have, plus married guys are more confident since they have nothing to prove and don't need to chase these girls.
 

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I also think people want what they cant have, plus married guys are more confident since they have nothing to prove and don't need to chase these girls.
That's a good point. Married guys get well acquainted with females close up and are comfortable with interacting with them. They are much more at ease talking to females and know how to talk with them. Which can immediately make them more interesting than some single guys who are still fumbling around.

And forbidden fruit is usually alluring.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I also think people want what they cant have, plus married guys are more confident since they have nothing to prove and don't need to chase these girls.
only if married ok. if he is beat by his wife and or cucked he will not be confident, just the opposite.

every see a married man that can not make a decision...
 

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I also think people want what they cant have, plus married guys are more confident since they have nothing to prove and don't need to chase these girls.
I also agree that's very valid. Also the confidence perhaps is alluring too? Want it can't have it or if she tries hard? Maybe like a challenge even. Women base their choices and decisions on pure emotion. - So anything is possible!!!
 

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You can behave like this when you have extreme abundance. Extreme abundance is actually quite boring in some way so you need to create chaos to get yourself off after a while. This is why women are attracted to things that make men scratch their heads. It's because men aren't abundant and they don't get it. Extreme Abundance is boring.
Gold. So true. Men will never fully comprehend how weird extreme sexual abundance makes you. Only A list celebrity actors will even begin to understand. Extreme abundance make you capricious and thrill seeking. This is why super rich people get into weird stuff.
 

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In a word, because he is 'unavailable.' Which can be quite attractive to many women in and of itself. His unavailability renders him somewhat indifferent and detached from the outcome. But still indicating strong interest for his own reasons.
A man doesn’t have to be “unavailable“ to be indifferent. He can be single and still be detached to the outcome.

Versus men who are needy, controlling, jealous, possessive, wanting to "lock her down." In PUA lingo simps, beta providers, white knights. Who are extremely unattractive to most women.
A married man can be needy, controlling and jealous. A single man can be smooth, relaxed, and witty. One has nothing to do with the other.

The only reason a man should get married is to get a kid out of her. After that, either divorce or have a younger side thing. To stick with her forever and ever when her stock is crashing and burning isn’t in a man’s best interest.
 

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Why?

1) Married men are pre-vetted. This saves women a lot of work.

2) Married men have already demonstrated a willingness to commit their valuable resources to the woman they love. This is very desirable to a woman.

3) Women are inherently competitive (at least until their early 40s or so) and want what the other woman has, ie grass is always greener on the other side.

Every action with women is biological. Use it to your advantage always.

I don’t recommend this but….it is super easy to go from Wife 1.0 to Wife 2.0 without getting divorced, dating, and then marrying.
If you go through the more “ethical” route, it is much harder to get Wife 2.0 after divorce from Wife 1.0.

In women’s eyes, you are desirable and require zero vetting if you are married. If you are divorced, you are an Unknown and require lots of vetting. That’s biology.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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^ this guy knows what he is talking about.

I still remember the female firefighter who tapped my ring and said "If you weren't wearing this I'd ask you out here and now,"
 

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Why is it some females married or not like married men? I have a new female staff at work. Shes cute petite and early 40 s. No wedding ring and she’s giving me that vibe.
She would be tempting to take down. But females, work , FWB can be sticky. Going to feel this out.
Anybody here have this happen ??
Unavailable. Already got it. Is that ultimate challenge. And women love anything bright and shinny.
 

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Married men have already demonstrated a willingness to commit their valuable resources to the woman they love. This is very desirable to a woman.
A woman told me many years ago that women found men with a willingness to commit as attractive. That is contrary to PUA Bro Theory, which says that women want the wild stallion that can't be tamed. Probably for the casual sex. But it seems to me the door should at least be open a crack so they have a little something to dream about.
 

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All joking aside, to answer the OP question, I would say it’s due to the following:

1. Preselection
2. The hot taboo of getting him to cheat
3. He’s easy to have “no strings” sex with. There’s no “breakup” required.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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All joking aside, to answer the OP question, I would say it’s due to the following:

1. Preselection
2. The hot taboo of getting him to cheat
3. He’s easy to have “no strings” sex with. There’s no “breakup” required.
That makes sense. I think I work with this new staff this weekend. I’m going to gauge this and see how it plays out
 

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Women want the wanted man. Men who are bachelor's are rarely Troy Francis 50 (nearly) approaching irl in podcast with far hotter younger women. Married demonstrates he's stupid enough to risk losing his resources and plugged in enough to play Russian roulette.
 

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Why is it some females married or not like married men? I have a new female staff at work. Shes cute petite and early 40 s. No wedding ring and she’s giving me that vibe.
She would be tempting to take down. But females, work , FWB can be sticky. Going to feel this out.
Anybody here have this happen ??
Could go back to the old adage, people always want what they cannot get.
 
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