women who spin plates

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Senior Don Juan

Apr 7, 2013

casaanova said:
Women spin plates by default. Our society encourages it. The thing is, they spin them to get what they want out of them. i.e., they'll have one guy designated solely for attention and late-night texting, 1-2 guys to take her out on dates and pay for her, 1 guy to actually have sex with, and 1 guy to wait a few years and eventually marry her. This is a given for about 80% of young women. If you're not the guy she's sleeping with, imo you should just next - because she's already put you in another category of which there's no escaping

well written

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.