"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Women who cause jealousy

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How many of the women cause jealousy to their boyfriends/husbands ?

10, 20, 50, 100 % of them ?

I remember my wife has done this for our entire 19 years relationship

This resulted in serious harms for our relationship, because I felt low self value
and it has been mandatory for me to look for validation in other women

This fu--ck--ing jealousy cause us feel like a real thing is going on

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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My opinion is that this can only happen is if a person (man or woman) is easily susceptible to and has difficulty reacting to a jealousy. Jealousy in itself is not necessarily a bad thing, it's how a person reacts to it which causes problems.
 

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Let's just say that most of them will do it if you allow them to get away with it. Also, it's much more common in younger, more immature girls. The older they get, the less they do it.

Women like to feel wanted. A very basic need for a woman is not just knowing her husband/boyfriend thinks she's pretty, but that other guys think she's pretty as well.

That's why when YOU tell her she's pretty, IT'S NOT ENOUGH. She KNOWS you think she's pretty. What she WANTS is for the guys around her to thinks she's pretty too.

That being said, her "causing" you to feel jealous is more than likely her "bragging" about another guy who made her feel pretty. She may not be intentionally making you jealous, she's just on a "high" because someone else thought she was attractive.

The key to handling it is to LET HER brag, but do NOT let it bother you. After all, SHE'S WITH YOU, NOT THEM. She's coming home with YOU, not that guy. Right? So what do you have to be jealous about? If you are jealous you are insecure about yourself. Use that "jealous" feeling to look inside yourself and face your insecurity and get it out of you.
 

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Vypros said:
Let's just say that most of them will do it if you allow them to get away with it. Also, it's much more common in younger, more immature girls. The older they get, the less they do it.

Women like to feel wanted. A very basic need for a woman is not just knowing her husband/boyfriend thinks she's pretty, but that other guys think she's pretty as well.

That's why when YOU tell her she's pretty, IT'S NOT ENOUGH. She KNOWS you think she's pretty. What she WANTS is for the guys around her to thinks she's pretty too.

That being said, her "causing" you to feel jealous is more than likely her "bragging" about another guy who made her feel pretty. She may not be intentionally making you jealous, she's just on a "high" because someone else thought she was attractive.

The key to handling it is to LET HER brag, but do NOT let it bother you. After all, SHE'S WITH YOU, NOT THEM. She's coming home with YOU, not that guy. Right? So what do you have to be jealous about? If you are jealous you are insecure about yourself. Use that "jealous" feeling to look inside yourself and face your insecurity and get it out of you.
Have you ever been in love before?
 

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dadmonson said:
Have you ever been in love before?
Why do you think I come here and mainly give advice and not seek it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tell her to go have sex with everybody around town, you don't care.

That should fix her...lol...

your'e married, so the chances she'll cheat are a little lower with the death do us part society thing hanging over her head.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I'm curious, why did you ask?
Because what he said in the last paragraph is harder than it sounds expecially if you love this girl a lot. Eventhough it maybe true. I think if u show a little bit teeny weeny bit of jealousy(like in your facial expressions) she would actually like it kind of, I think. It kind of shows that you care.
 

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dadmonson said:
Because what he said in the last paragraph is harder than it sounds expecially if you love this girl a lot. Eventhough it maybe true. I think if u show a little bit teeny weeny bit of jealousy(like in your facial expressions) she would actually like it kind of, I think. It kind of shows that you care.
Hey, I never said it was easy. I got myself to a point where I didn't show my jealousy, though (it was hard as hell to do, but I did it).

What, then, did I do instead? When she told me things that made me jealous, I would say something like "That guy has good taste, doesn't he?" and she'd LOVE it.
 

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dadmonson said:
... I think if u show a little bit teeny weeny bit of jealousy(like in your facial expressions) she would actually like it kind of, I think. It kind of shows that you care.
I agree. Even a subtle gesture such as a slight change in your facial expression can provide the comfort that she needed at that time. It goes back to my premise that jealousy itself isn't bad but your reaction to it is what matters.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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