Women use drama to spice things up.. but why!

[Alphachannel]

Why can't women just let things go smoothly?

So I was texting my girl, things have been great lately and the relationship was at its best, we were talking about random things when she asked me about some other chick who I barely know.. I wasn't surprised when she asked because it's not the first time, she asked me about her before and I assured her that there's nothing between me and that chick, honestly.. I don't know if she believed that or not.
anyway, she asked me about her and whether that other chick is talking to me or not, I told her that she texted me once like months ago about some work-related things, and we haven't talked since.. at this point she's upset ofc, she said I don't have to explain and I'm free to talk to anyone I want (which we all know isn't true)..
I tried to convince her that I'm being honest because I don't wanna keep secrets from her, but that didn't work.
then she said she has to go.. I swore that other chick means nothing to me, needless to say, that didn't work either, she apologized and left the conversation, I didn't reply to that and left the conversation too.

So what do you think that happened?
Is she trying to create some sort of drama to spice things up?
or is she looking for reassurance that I'm still into her, is she insecure or sth?

Do I try to contact her and fix things?
or do I play along with her drama, like I act mad because she left the conversation in the middle, or that she doesn't trust me or so...?

 

[RangerMIke]

Okay... ever watch a movie where nothing but good stuff happens? Pretty boring.... if only good happy stuff is going on there is no reference point. Good and happy becomes boring.

Women are emotional creatures... ANY kind of emotion is what they want and need, negative positive doesn't matter. If things are going well, they will toss a wrench in the works just to make things interesting again. In my experience the more mature a woman, the less likely she'll do stuff like this. But my 20s and early 30s were filled with women putting me on the emotional rollercoaster because they are bored.

Okay... how to deal with this. Simple, just walk away. When a women starts this nonsense, simply remove yourself from the situation until her attitude improves. Don't argue with her... don't fight, simply walk away.

Be warned.... if it's something like this situation where she is accusing you of cheating... it is likely she is thinking of cheating herself. Could be some other dude is sniffing around. If she starts this cr@p and you do what you should do and walk away... she might just run to the other dude and you are done. If this happens... well, do you really want a girl that is going to leave you so easily?

 

[Alphachannel]

Okay... ever watch a movie where nothing but good stuff happens? Pretty boring.... if only good happy stuff is going on there is no reference point. Good and happy becomes boring.

Women are emotional creatures... ANY kind of emotion is what they want and need, negative positive doesn't matter. If things are going well, they will toss a wrench in the works just to make things interesting again. In my experience the more mature a woman, the less likely she'll do stuff like this. But my 20s and early 30s were filled with women putting me on the emotional rollercoaster because they are bored.

Okay... how to deal with this. Simple, just walk away. When a women starts this nonsense, simply remove yourself from the situation until her attitude improves. Don't argue with her... don't fight, simply walk away.

Be warned.... if it's something like this situation where she is accusing you of cheating... it is likely she is thinking of cheating herself. Could be some other dude is sniffing around. If she starts this cr@p and you do what you should do and walk away... she might just run to the other dude and you are done. If this happens... well, do you really want a girl that is going to leave you so easily?

You're right, even though this girl is 22 (I'm 24), it's not the first time she starts a fight over nothing! sometimes I don't even know why she's mad or upset, and if I fail to understand the reason or to get things right, I simply wait, sometimes she apologizes, other times she simply starts a conversation like nothing happened..

The idea of walking away sounds like a good thing to do, I KNOW that she isn't cheating or thinking about it, I just don't know how much time will it take until she improves her attitude.. if she did at all..
knowing this girl, she's extremely sensitive, I'm not sure if she's just creating drama, or she's convinced that I'm hiding something from her, and in that case I don't think she'll ever come back and talk since she's truly hurt.. I really don't want to lose her over a misunderstanding..

 

[GS750]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to RangerMIke again.

Wise words.

If she runs to another guy over some BS misunderstanding, that she created, then you're likely better off by walking away. Let him put up with her drama-making nonsense.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

Why can't women just let things go smoothly?

So I was texting my girl, things have been great lately and the relationship was at its best, we were talking about random things when she asked me about some other chick who I barely know.. I wasn't surprised when she asked because it's not the first time, she asked me about her before and I assured her that there's nothing between me and that chick, honestly.. I don't know if she believed that or not.
anyway, she asked me about her and whether that other chick is talking to me or not, I told her that she texted me once like months ago about some work-related things, and we haven't talked since.. at this point she's upset ofc, she said I don't have to explain and I'm free to talk to anyone I want (which we all know isn't true)..
I tried to convince her that I'm being honest because I don't wanna keep secrets from her, but that didn't work.
then she said she has to go.. I swore that other chick means nothing to me, needless to say, that didn't work either, she apologized and left the conversation, I didn't reply to that and left the conversation too.

So what do you think that happened?
Is she trying to create some sort of drama to spice things up?
or is she looking for reassurance that I'm still into her, is she insecure or sth?

Do I try to contact her and fix things?
or do I play along with her drama, like I act mad because she left the conversation in the middle, or that she doesn't trust me or so...?

Dude you really dont get it. You were ****ested and you failed like little puppy.She pushed you and you went on defence mode,it had nothing to do with women or truth but it has everything with you being wuss.

 

[Alphachannel]

If she runs to another guy over some BS misunderstanding, that she created, then you're likely better off by walking away. Let him put up with her drama-making nonsense.

I didn't say she would run to another guy, I simply mentioned that she might actually be hurt and convinced that I'm hiding something, and this can ruin the relationship if I walked away instead of talking it over.. right?
on the other hand, walking away makes huge sense.. why things have to be this complicated?

 

[blind_one]

Dude you really dont get it. You were ****ested and you failed like little puppy.She pushed you and you went on defence mode,it had nothing to do with women or truth but it has everything with you being wuss.

I agree with Johny, you went on defense needlessly. I see it now because my ex did the same **** to me and I tried explaining over and over (POINTLESS).

The correct way would be to stay unfazed like a rock. Withdraw attention. If she goes away or cheats, she was planning on doing so anyway.

 

[Alphachannel]

I agree with Johny, you went on defense needlessly. I see it now because my ex did the same **** to me and I tried explaining over and over (POINTLESS).

The correct way would be to stay unfazed like a rock. Withdraw attention. If she goes away or cheats, she was planning on doing so anyway.

Believe me I know when I'm being tested, this one isn't one of those times..
I didn't even try to defend myself, I stated some facts to clarify things, but she chose not to believe them, or maybe she did but overreacted idk..

Well, I know my girl and I know for a fact that she isn't cheating or planning on doing so, but if she goes away.. I don't think there's anything I can do to stop that from happening, maybe staying away for a while would be the right thing to do..
why can't relationships go smooth and let us enjoy them? *sigh*

 

[stevo]

Lol you swore the girl didnt mean anything to you? are you serious?

Clearly you dont know when youre being sheet tested.


Your girl wasnt looking for the truth, she already knows nothing happened with you and the other girl, she was just poking at you and you fell right through like a bag of sand.


Be playful and stop justifying yourself.

If you told her once before nothing is going on, that's it stop answering the same question over and over.


If she asks about the other girl, you respond


"Hmm, do you have a crush on her?, I dont mind "


Since she keeps talking about her. Be playful.


You failed this one completely and probably ruined the excitement for your girl.


When they poke at you, you use their insecurity against them!

 

[sph21]

Stevo is right. You failed her sh*t test. Your answer was boring as if you were scared of losing her by answering with honesty. You weren't 'being a challenge' and 'mystery' at the moment.