"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Women that rejected you.

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Post some stories/examples of how women rejected you. It can be obvious rejections like "don't ever call or email me again", or more subtle rejections.

I think we can learn from the negative moments we all face just as much as the positive.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ignore text and

"I HAVE A BOYFRIEND" YEEEEEAAAAAAAAHHH
 

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A particularly bad breakup ended with her spitting at me "Have fun becoming a security guard or a postal worker, you ****ing loser".

Funny thing is, I've heard from a few friends that she's now working at the supermarket. I've got a desk job. zing!
 

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c0nfus3d1ne said:
Post some stories/examples of how women rejected you. It can be obvious rejections like "don't ever call or email me again", or more subtle rejections.

I think we can learn from the negative moments we all face just as much as the positive.
Umm...how do you figure? The brain processes positive information better than negative...so i how hearing rejection stories will make you better.
 

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I don't really remember any because I don't really focus on them. I remember a lot more positive pick-ups than I do the negative. But the ones I hate the most are the girls that just completely ignore you. I tried picking up a girl at my work once, dressed in full uniform. All I said was "How are you ladies doing this evening?" (there was two of them) and all I got was a cold stare and not even a fine, or a hello back. But the way I see it, you must be a pretty big ***** to not even greet back an employee. Then I've had a couple other girls who have just burned me hard. You know, the ones that always have a smartass insult after everything you say. Fuuuck *****es.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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oakraiderz2 said:
Umm...how do you figure? The brain processes positive information better than negative...so i how hearing rejection stories will make you better.
You're getting a bit technical... just go with the flow.
 
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Do I really need to post it again? No, but I will anyway.

I went over to her place for new years eve and we were chilling, but she decided to get emotional and talk about her ex husaband who cheated on her. And ended up throwing me out on my butt @ 4am, in the middle of the freezing night. And I was in a strange neighborhood and couldn't drive because I was drunk.

Fun times.
 
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Well, let's go down the list:

Usually people just flake out (i.e. they don't reply back to your email or phone calls for no appearant reason), and this by and far is the most common type of rejection.

Other unique rejections on list would be as follows:

I've got:

1) I'm too difficult.

2) Offended some girl asking her how many boys she slept with out of the blue on the first date, etc....

3) Let's be friends.

There's nothing that I can learn from any of the above experiences other than the fact I guess my looks aren't really that good or something, but hey, I have to accept that I'm not that physically attractive.
 

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Luke Skywalker said:
1) I'm too difficult.

2) Offended some girl asking her how many boys she slept with out of the blue on the first date, etc....

3) Let's be friends.

There's nothing that I can learn from any of the above experiences other than the fact I guess my looks aren't really that good or something, but hey, I have to accept that I'm not that physically attractive.
you guys that look at everything through a looks prism are just making things harder for yourselves

1. not fun enough or genuine enough
2. need to work on your social intelligence / calibration
3. not enough attraction

work on those things man

here are some of my club approach rejections
- "I'm just here to dance with my friends"
- "my boyfriend is over there" *points to the middle of nowhere*
- eyecodes gf's and moves the whole group 4 feet away
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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A very embarassing rejection that happened about a month ago was when i tried to talk to these 2 girls at my school that i currently go to. I used an indirect opener asking about their opinions on tatooes and my target turned her head away, the other just kept saying um. It was the 2nd time i got ignored by a girl and it wasn't as funny as it was the 1st time.
 

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Some of mine back in my AFC days.

-Turned her head away when I approached
-Ignored my texts, calls and me when I was asking about our arranged date.
-Walked away
-Laughed in my face when I asked "do you come here often". Yes gentlemen, I know I know!!!!!
-"You're not my type" etc etc
 

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In my afc days I aked a girl out in my music class (high school) she turned me down. You know what I did? I said oh well atleast I gave it a shot and moved on with my life like nothing happend. You know what happend next? Less than 1 month after that. I met another girl and became fvck buddys with her.

You live and you learn. Things will work out only if you want it to! But, it takes patients and effort.
 

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"Its not you...its me..." Yes, it was very cliche.
 
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