Women showing high IOI's but refuses to get physical

[CMNILS87]

I get you but it wouldn't have changed anything. I'm a big boy, I can take rejection. We weren't looking for the same thing. I wanted fun; she was one week removed from bridesmaid at her best friend's wedding and is 32.

The reason I reached out was because I had 2 other dates this week and a 3rd girl contacted me for a Tuesday meetup. Tuesday was my only free night this week so before I confirmed with the 3rd girl I wanted to give the girl I already went 2 dates on first dibs. I'm out of town next week and she's on vacation the week after so if it wasn't this Tuesday it would be a month later. Out of sight out of mind.

My problem is that I go on too many dates. Overdating is not a good thing. I miss having butterflies. Now I'm just going through the motions.

I don't get butterflies anymore. I'm just reading her reactions to the conversation. You're over gaming most of these girls. Patience and subtlety.

Here's an exercise for you. If you bring another girl back. DO NOT focus on getting into her pants. Just focus on being relaxed and having a conversation on the couch. If you game her right, she'll kiss you. Let her kiss you first. If let's her feel like she's in control at your place and that's a good thing

 

[mr. kennedy]

I've never had a woman initiate a kiss. They will give you signs that they want to be kissed but to actually take charge it has never happened. Maybe I date mostly shy girls.

 

[guru1000]

The problem was that you cared too much. Frame flop. If you had women at your beck and call, and she rejected your kisses, you would laugh at her--l-i-t-e-r-a-l-l-y, laugh at her. It's a big fvcken joke; a circus act that you are orchestrating, and YOU will have to finish the date shortly because you have another coming within the hour. "Come on hon, what else you got? I have to get going." This is the shameless attitude you should assume when dating.

 

[pyros]

Maybe you should focus on knowing which girls dig you more, so you dont waste your time in silly dates that lead nowhere.

It is better to have two dates in two weeks with two different girls that really like you, than to go on five dates in one week with girls that do not really dig you.

 

[mr. kennedy]

Maybe you should focus on knowing which girls dig you more, so you dont waste your time in silly dates that lead nowhere.

It is better to have two dates in two weeks with two different girls that really like you, than to go on five dates in one week with girls that do not really dig you.

I totally agree with you. That's why I think overdating is a bad idea.

I go to 2-3 happy hours every week and I'm on tinder/happn/bumble. I easily get 5-10 numbers every week and 3 of them turn into dates. As I have other hobbies, i only have 3 free nights a week to date. So every week I date new girls and drop the old ones. It's a rat race leading to nowhere and no lays. Do I do it because none of the girls give me that spark or do I do it because I want to prove to myself I can get numbers and dates with numerous women? I think it's a bit of both.

That's why i tried with the girl in this thread to actually make an effort to go beyond date #1. I did 2 dates with her which i very seldom do with someone. I texted her 4 days later for date #3. I don't think that was unreasonable. It's not like I was hounding her every day. One date per week is normal if 2 people dig each other.

In any case I had a date yesterday and another one today. I just came home and have 4 messages from girls on apps that want to meet. Like I said it's a rat race to no where.

 

[Bingo-Player]

5 days later I proposed drinks. She couldn't that night because she already made plans with her friends but countered with 3 other days. I chose one of them. We met at the bar (she showed up 15 minutes early and with heels like I told her too and with a very sexy dress). Convo was smooth. She even was adamant to pay her share. I brought her over to my place afterwards. Did kino and she didn't pull back. Talked some more at my place but when I went for the kiss she backs out and says I just cant kiss someone I don't know very well. I need to feel like it's going somewhere first. I answered I understand then said I have to go to bed now goodbye.

When she got back home she sends me a text thanking me for the great night we spent together, how fun it was and wishing me a great day at work with smiley faces all over.

push <-> pull

when she said this you should of led her into your bedroom

when she asked what you were doing you respond "showing you where were going"

put her on the bed kiss her - remove her clothes - tease her - lick her - fvck her

you use as much force as you can without entering rape territory

women need to feel dominated , you can use all the kino in the world but unless she feels mentally attracted to you its all pointless

by leading & dominating her you stir up a primal attraction in her that most women cant turn down

 

[mr. kennedy]

At work today I was at the water cooler when i ran into a female coworker. She started talking about how all guys are *******s yada yada yada. After 2 minutes of listening to this BS, I wanted to change the topic so i decided to talk about the events in this thread. I never ever talk to a chick about other chicks but I rather do that than listen to her whining about *******s.

After I described her the whole story, she immediately blurted out with no hesitation "she liked you but didn't like your apartment". My immediate reaction was WTF you talking about but the more I thought about it later on the more she might have been on to something. When I brought the chick back to my place on date #2, I remember she criticized a few things about my place (the fact that I had nothing hanged on my walls and the size of my place). I live in a 400sq foot studio in the heart of downtown and she lives in a 4000 sq feet bungalow in the suburbs.

Anyways, the coworker told me that when a woman visits a guy's place for the first time the first thought that immediately pops into her mind is "is this a place I want to spend time in". It's female nature. Just thought I"d throw that in.