women send pics, videos before meeting date 1

[sacgrad]

Hey - so I met this woman on one of the online bazookas... (dating sites)...

I think I have a pretty attractive profile (not saying this to brag, but to develop context).. so usually woman get me, my passion, etc by reading me up... we exchange numbers, start texting and ends up sending me 9 pics, 3 videos (her dancing in a bikini etc). Strange???

I am attracted to her - In between we talk 3 times, once for 2 hours as I was travelling for business and had down time... and she is planning vacations with me, feels we have such a connection etc.. (no first meeting yet).. Strange???

Finally I come back to town and she calls and says, how about we just meet for a little bit.. ( I have my son and so say how about in a few days).. she says how about now.. just for a little bit..

She comes, drives 15 miles, we meet on my patio and we talk.. for about 2 hours.. she is definitely digging me now.. and I brush her lips on the kiss goodbye - she tightens them.. texts me back saying.. I want our first kiss to be special.. blah blah..


Is this all weird - her aggression, her impatience? She seems very normal.. has been div 5 years, ex works on wall street (gets good money etc)...

Also - if this is not weird - Im moving on her date 2 .. but she keeps saying "I am not the kind of girl who gives in easy"... blah blah.. IDeas??

(I know this is long.. sorry)

 

[Atom Smasher]

I GUARANTEE you she is BPD.

Most of you will probably laugh at this, but she is displaying the same signs I've always seen before going on the BPD hell ride.

Sending pictures out of the blue - check.
Some are sexually provocative - check.
Impulsive - check.
Aggressive, impatient - check.
Doesn't understand boundaries - check.

I could go on. Beware of this one. You might want to investigate further, but there are some major red flags here.

 

[sacgrad]

I GUARANTEE you she is BPD.

Most of you will probably laugh at this, but she is displaying the same signs I've always seen before going on the BPD hell ride.

Sending pictures out of the blue - check.
Some are sexually provocative - check.
Impulsive - check.
Aggressive, impatient - check.
Doesn't understand boundaries - check.

I could go on. Beware of this one. You might want to investigate further, but there are some major red flags here.

Would you do her or are you saying stay away and not even do her?

 

[Atom Smasher]

Personally, I would stay away, but I'm the kind of guy who looks for relationships, not pump & dumps.

She really shows the BPD warning signs, and once a BPD gets her hooks in it's a monumental struggle to extract yourself. I would advise finding someone more stable.

If she is not BPD (very unlikely), I would also consider that usually when a woman comes on strong and makes future plans (vacations, declarations of deep connections, etc.), she is statistically very likely to suddenly do a complete 180 on her feelings for you, totally out of the blue.

I'll stop short of advising you next her, but I would encourage you to proceed with extreme caution. Something is not right here.

 

[Atom Smasher]

sacrad, I'm a mod, and need to inform you that you need to put your age in your profile in order to post in the Mature Man forum.

 

[5string]

:woo: :woo:

I GUARANTEE you she is BPD.

Most of you will probably laugh at this, but she is displaying the same signs I've always seen before going on the BPD hell ride.

Sending pictures out of the blue - check.
Some are sexually provocative - check.
Impulsive - check.
Aggressive, impatient - check.
Doesn't understand boundaries - check.

I could go on. Beware of this one. You might want to investigate further, but there are some major red flags here.

:woo:

 

[sacgrad]

sacrad, I'm a mod, and need to inform you that you need to put your age in your profile in order to post in the Mature Man forum.

I tried looking into updating my age.. couldnt figure it out...

 

[Atom Smasher]

On the blue menu bar click, "user CP", then on the left sidebar click "Edit Profile".

How old are you?

 

[SecondHalf]

Would you do her or are you saying stay away and not even do her?

These chicks are the most fun ... initially.

If something is preventing me from a relationship such as distance, time, other plates (when I used to have plates), a chick like this was delicious.

If I was single, cold and lonely, I would run for the hills as I might wake up 5 years later in the mental intensive care ward.

It really depends on you?
Are you vulnerable?

Breakups are never easy with them. Expect embarrassment, humiliation if not stocking.

SH

 

[sacgrad]

These chicks are the most fun ... initially.

If something is preventing me from a relationship such as distance, time, other plates (when I used to have plates), a chick like this was delicious.

If I was single, cold and lonely, I would run for the hills as I might wake up 5 years later in the mental intensive care ward.

It really depends on you?
Are you vulnerable?

Breakups are never easy with them. Expect embarrassment, humiliation if not stocking.

SH

I have been divorced for a year now.. have dated a few women.. but am not letting the heart out of the cage.. its just my animal instincts for now.. not looking to get into a relationship.... does that answer your questin...

 

[sacgrad]

On the blue menu bar click, "user CP", then on the left sidebar click "Edit Profile".

How old are you?

Im 32

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

she is statistically very likely to suddenly do a complete 180 on her feelings for you, totally out of the blue.

I've been a part of this. Mind fvck city.

Best advice I can give: if doesn't feel right, it probably isn't, like your instincts told you on this one. Keep your guard up and never let her know she has you, not with this one or any other possible BPD anyway.

 

[sacgrad]

Aright guys.. for those of you interested in how it climaxed...

She drove to my area and then calls me. Says I was around - no real reason being in my area. I meet her for dinner. Take her home. Do her. She is emotional after the sex - says it was too soon... wants confirmation from me it wasnt. The sex was ok - she wasnt all in and it wasnt as passionate. Tells me she wants an emotional connection and babies. Texts me this morning saying she feels such chemistry and connection but sex was too soon - she got carried away. She wants to take a step back and slow it down. She wants to see if there is emotional connection. I am doing Dump!

 

[SecondHalf]

Yikes, definitely dump.

Don't worry about the fallout later (and there will likely be one).
She'll be doing the upside down bike exercise by next week with a different guy.

Hope you wore a tuque.

SH

 

[Zarky]

If she's under 25, this is standard and expected behavior. 25-29, this is quite kooky. 30 and over, nutsville.