Stagger Lee
Master Don Juan
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I wanted to point out some main differences between how generally females approach things and men do. Maybe it would be useful to some with things like oneitis and other question that frequently pop up.
Men are quickly willing to have sex and also will have sex with girls that they do not deem relationship material. Women also quickly determine if they would have sex with a guy, but this usually means she also sees him as relationship material. Women will try to drag their feet with letting it go sexual. The point here is you don't win a woman over slowly by pursuing her. This is really how a woman would win a man over and how we see oneitis developing so commonly. You basically already either won her over or not from the start.
So the point here is females decide very quickly whether or not they would be interested in you sexually. You have to see the signs and your job is to escalate on her. Escalate and either you get compliance or positive responses or you don't. If you are not getting increasing compliance from the get go, then you have a female that did not choose you and more time and effort isn't going to accomplishing anything other than getting you deeper into the friendzone.
If you think about it, there is a surplus of men that a woman would be attracted to and willing to have sex with. But she's not going to have sex with all of them unlike men would, and is only going to have sex with a certain few that lead her and escalate. Worst case scenario is she rejects your escalation but you have just saved time. It's also possible her giving in quickly will lead to an ONS, but that is better than erroring the other way. Besides most of us guys aren't focusing primarily on a relationship anyway.
Men are quickly willing to have sex and also will have sex with girls that they do not deem relationship material. Women also quickly determine if they would have sex with a guy, but this usually means she also sees him as relationship material. Women will try to drag their feet with letting it go sexual. The point here is you don't win a woman over slowly by pursuing her. This is really how a woman would win a man over and how we see oneitis developing so commonly. You basically already either won her over or not from the start.
So the point here is females decide very quickly whether or not they would be interested in you sexually. You have to see the signs and your job is to escalate on her. Escalate and either you get compliance or positive responses or you don't. If you are not getting increasing compliance from the get go, then you have a female that did not choose you and more time and effort isn't going to accomplishing anything other than getting you deeper into the friendzone.
If you think about it, there is a surplus of men that a woman would be attracted to and willing to have sex with. But she's not going to have sex with all of them unlike men would, and is only going to have sex with a certain few that lead her and escalate. Worst case scenario is she rejects your escalation but you have just saved time. It's also possible her giving in quickly will lead to an ONS, but that is better than erroring the other way. Besides most of us guys aren't focusing primarily on a relationship anyway.